Need advice - accidentally discovered BF’s fetish
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The other day, my boyfriend left his phone unlocked on the counter, and I noticed he was logged into a different Instagram account than usual. It’s a fetish page where he’s wearing hazmat suits and gas masks. The header mentions that he has a fetish for latex, heavy rubber, and hazmat gear.
We’ve been dating for about a year, and he hasn’t mentioned any of this to me. I’m a bit worried because we’ve been talking more about moving together. Our sex life is good, and since he’s never brought it up, it’s clear that it’s not something he absolutely needs to enjoy himself. He’s less experienced than I am, and he’s mentioned that he might need some guidance, but when I try to talk to him about what he likes or wants, he just brushes it off. I’ve told him that I’m open to trying new things, and I’ve been clear about my boundaries, but none of these topics have come up. I’m more than willing to explore things with him, and I really don’t want him to hide anything from me, especially if we’re going to be living together. Maybe I’m just talking to myself here, but how can I let him know that he can share whatever he’s into without fear of judgment? |
Anonymous
| You’d have been happier if you’d just minded your own business and not snooped in his phone. 🙄 |
Anonymous
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You’ve already let him know. Leave it alone Are you into whatever you discovered on his phone? If so, surprise him and dress up in a hazmat suit or whatever you saw… |
Anonymous
| For about $15 you can buy a white Tyvek painters suit at Lowes or Home Depot that includes booties and hood. Surprise him with it. |
Anonymous
| Is his name Josh? If you don’t want him I’ll take him. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like a trainee BTK |
Anonymous
You want a man with multiple personalities, separate accounts for each, secrets you're not supposed to know about and no ability to communicate his wants/needs directly? Why would you want this, regardless of who you think this person is? Not my guy/Josh, but the pattern of behavior here isn't a great foundation for a relationship. If you're just into latex/kink/fetish, you can find plenty of people willing to talk to you directly about what they're into. This guy sounds like a covert creep. Enjoy your red flags! |
Anonymous
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Just let him know and tell him you'd like to explore with him. Don't be judgmental.
I'm a DH and one of my ex-girlfriends found out I have a foot fetish. She was happy to accommodate me and I wish I told her earlier. With my DW I told her before we became intimate and it never was problem. |
Anonymous
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So? Maybe he doesn't want to share this with you and is perfectly happy separating his real life from his little interest. A lot of people are like that. Not everything needs to be shared and discussed, OMG!
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Anonymous
LOL Josh is the protagonist from a smut book “Lights Out”, where he has a mask account like the one OP describes. Pretty sure OP made up this scenario, but either way, maskplay is very hot right now on Instagram and there’s thousands of women who would line up for a guy like that. It’s just fun. He probably likes the attention and makes a bit of money off it. I’d find it hot if my partner had an account like that. |
Anonymous
| OP posted a humble brag, just in case she didn't, there are several couples into this who show up at The Crucible if you want to learn more in a safe environment. |
Anonymous
| Ew. |
Anonymous
How is this a humble brag? Not kink shaming, I just don't get how this post is bragging at all. A large majority of women would not be jealous of their SO was into that kind of thing. |
Anonymous
| A fetish is something you MUST engage in, in order to get off. A kink is something you just like to do. Big difference. |
Anonymous
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"I want you to know, I practice safe sex." (Skip to final 5 seconds.) |