Need advice - accidentally discovered BF’s fetish

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A fetish is something you MUST engage in, in order to get off. A kink is something you just like to do. Big difference.

"It's not a fetish; it's a preference."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP posted a humble brag, just in case she didn't, there are several couples into this who show up at The Crucible if you want to learn more in a safe environment.

How is this a humble brag? Not kink shaming, I just don't get how this post is bragging at all. A large majority of women would not be jealous of their SO was into that kind of thing.

Maybe that pp is just deeply disturbed and jealous of OP 'getting to be involved' in this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP posted a humble brag, just in case she didn't, there are several couples into this who show up at The Crucible if you want to learn more in a safe environment.

There’s nothing to brag about when you’re a snoop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just let him know and tell him you'd like to explore with him. Don't be judgmental.

I'm a DH and one of my ex-girlfriends found out I have a foot fetish. She was happy to accommodate me and I wish I told her earlier.

With my DW I told her before we became intimate and it never was problem.

Thank you for the advice.
I don’t have a problem with it. I just wonder why he never brought it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP posted a humble brag, just in case she didn't, there are several couples into this who show up at The Crucible if you want to learn more in a safe environment.

How is this a humble brag? Not kink shaming, I just don't get how this post is bragging at all. A large majority of women would not be jealous of their SO was into that kind of thing.

Maybe that pp is just deeply disturbed and jealous of OP 'getting to be involved' in this.

How can there be jealousy when it does not involve another person?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like harmless fun. Run with it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is his name Josh? If you don’t want him I’ll take him.

You want a man with multiple personalities, separate accounts for each, secrets you're not supposed to know about and no ability to communicate his wants/needs directly? Why would you want this, regardless of who you think this person is? Not my guy/Josh, but the pattern of behavior here isn't a great foundation for a relationship. If you're just into latex/kink/fetish, you can find plenty of people willing to talk to you directly about what they're into. This guy sounds like a covert creep.

Enjoy your red flags!

LOL Josh is the protagonist from a smut book “Lights Out”, where he has a mask account like the one OP describes. Pretty sure OP made up this scenario, but either way, maskplay is very hot right now on Instagram and there’s thousands of women who would line up for a guy like that.

It’s just fun. He probably likes the attention and makes a bit of money off it. I’d find it hot if my partner had an account like that.

Not upset I didn't know that, but thanks for the info. I'd be fine with my partner having an account like that if I knew about it. The secret nature of it isn't "hot" to me, and what's "hot on instagram" is kinda a turn-off simply because it's hot on instagram.

I guess I'm just old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So? Maybe he doesn't want to share this with you and is perfectly happy separating his real life from his little interest. A lot of people are like that. Not everything needs to be shared and discussed, OMG!

OMG! Calm down, pp. Most people finding out their partner has a completely separate sex/sexual life would be at least somewhat unsettled by it. No, not "everything" needs to be shared and discussed, but I'd expect intimate partners to be more intimate with me than they are the random internet. If he can't talk to his partner about his "little interest", that's a red flag.

[Anonymous]

I’d break up over this. Anyone who hides a major part of their life from me is not for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A fetish is something you MUST engage in, in order to get off. A kink is something you just like to do. Big difference.

what's the difference between a fetish and a sexual preference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d break up over this. Anyone who hides a major part of their life from me is not for me.

- but please be honest: if he revealed it to you, then you’d judge him for it (not in a good way), and break up with him, wouldn’t you.

To the op: please try to be more open minded than the judgy prudish PP.

[Anonymous]

Go on Amazon and order your gas mask and hazmat suit. Shave your coochie put on a sexy lingerie under that hazmat suit and surprise him one night. He may be so turn on that he will rearrange your guts. Hopefully he has got a descent size tool to work with

YOLO

[Anonymous]

Meh.

Everyone has kinks.

(though many deny them / suppress them. Some men even become priests and turn asexual).

This kink sounds super harmless. Be open minded and look at the big picture here:

- is he a good man? Solid partner? Do you love and accept him?