Relationships that aren't aren't exclusive

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of women who aren't celibate but also aren't exclusive with anyone. How does it work?

[Anonymous]

What do you mean? You go on dates and sleep with whatever men you want. It's not complicated. I did this until I found my current partner.

[Anonymous]

You meet people, you tell them you aren't exclusive, you sleep with them. Rinse, repeat.

[Anonymous]

Oh and get tested often. Multiple partners who also have multiple partners means you need to practice very safe sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh and get tested often. Multiple partners who also have multiple partners means you need to practice very safe sex.

I would definitely stay away with a woman like you. No thanks!

[Anonymous]

Some people have casual sex, some people have multiple long term partners, and everything in between.

[Anonymous]

It's called dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh and get tested often. Multiple partners who also have multiple partners means you need to practice very safe sex.

I would definitely stay away with a woman like you. No thanks!

The question was about non exclusive relationships - which means having more than one sexual partner. Those sexual partners also have other partners. I have no idea what a "woman like you" means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh and get tested often. Multiple partners who also have multiple partners means you need to practice very safe sex.

I would definitely stay away with a woman like you. No thanks!

The question was about non exclusive relationships - which means having more than one sexual partner. Those sexual partners also have other partners. I have no idea what a "woman like you" means.

Clearly, you don't. I was not expecting you to grasp it anyway.

[Anonymous]

I tried it as a woman and it just felt like getting a lot of low quality sex with people who didn’t really care much about each other. And when I truly like a man, i never want to sleep with someone else. It’s very, very rare I would even be attracted to someone that much to sleep with them . Maybe in 20-30s a woman scan meet tons of attractive men to sort with, but 70% 40-50s men are not sexually attractive to me.

If a woman or a man enjoys this they are likely non monogamous.

[Anonymous]

For the ones who have had these kinds of relationships, did you actually care about the men? What did you say to them and what did they say to you?

How do you deal with competing invitations for Saturday night? Holidays? Running into each other or each other's friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of women who aren't celibate but also aren't exclusive with anyone. How does it work?

It's obviously messy and probably involves lots of ice cream and stds, and then cats and brainworms later in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the ones who have had these kinds of relationships, did you actually care about the men? What did you say to them and what did they say to you?

How do you deal with competing invitations for Saturday night? Holidays? Running into each other or each other's friends?

It was only for a very short period of 6 months for me when I had parallel dates. I was seeing them on different days - some were only available during the week; others on weekends. We didn’t get to intros to friends or joint holidays. One guy fell into me; another went back to GF he was seeing in parallel; one more presented himself poly. I found them all perfunctory in bed and didn’t enjoy sex as much as I would in a committed relationship. I didn’t care for them much and didn’t allow myself to relax and catch feelings. With poly man I simply couldn’t continue having sex as he wanted more varied acts and I only wanted everything protected. It felt cringy even kissing them leaving alone BJs. Eventually I only saw one man and ended of myself as I didn’t fall into him. It all felt like a total waste of time that gave me very little physically or emotionally

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tried it as a woman and it just felt like getting a lot of low quality sex with people who didn’t really care much about each other. And when I truly like a man, i never want to sleep with someone else. It’s very, very rare I would even be attracted to someone that much to sleep with them . Maybe in 20-30s a woman scan meet tons of attractive men to sort with, but 70% 40-50s men are not sexually attractive to me.

If a woman or a man enjoys this they are likely non monogamous.

I'm a woman who enjoys FWB/hookups. I don't want to commit to just any man, so I'd rather wait for one I see a future with. In the meantime, I want to get laid, and I don't see the need to be fake monogamous when it's not a relationship.

And sure, relationship sex tends to be better (but not always). I see it like pizza. Yea, I'd love a wood-fired pizza from Naples. Delicious. But the local stuff ain't so bad. And even Pizza Hut will do in a pinch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the ones who have had these kinds of relationships, did you actually care about the men? What did you say to them and what did they say to you?

How do you deal with competing invitations for Saturday night? Holidays? Running into each other or each other's friends?

Of course I cared about them. Am I gonna lend them money? No. But I don't see them as just a body, we talk about stuff going on in their life. And I've had FWB who would care for me when I was having a bad day - get me food, rub my feet while we watched a movie, etc.

You go out with whoever you want to on Saturday. If three men ask, pick your fav. Holidays I don't do with FWB. Not a big deal if we run into each other when one of us is with someone else, we all know we're seeing other people and we know not to cause drama. You just act like you're just friends.