Teacher feedback that my child is very chatty

[Anonymous]

Since kindergarten, we have gotten feedback that my DD (3rd grade) is chatty in school. I hadn't heard anything from teachers this year about it but have checked in with my DD and she mentioned having some trouble talking to a friend so I suggested she request a seat move, which happened. We had conferences today and everything was pretty positive but again the same issue. The teacher reports that she picks up material and very quickly and seems to be a visual learner, so she will see something and figure it out fast and thus finishes quickly. I get the sense that she then will sometimes choose to use the time non-productively and talk to friends, which is a distraction. The teacher basically said, she is friends with everyone and a leader in the classroom so if she stops doing this, other kids will focus too.

She is a very honest kid and will come home and tell me if she gets talked to about this. We have tried a lot of different things: talking to her about the behavior and using time more productively, taking away privileges at home, policing similar behavior when I personally observe it in other settings (an activity that I lead, sports). I know this is something she is aware of and I do think she tries, but she is extremely social and forgets in the moment. Anyone dealt with this and have ideas about how to deal with this issue? I am going to follow up with the teacher and suggest that we have a list of productive things she can do if she is done with her work (besides talking!). For what it is worth, she is in FCPS full-time AAP in a cluster model in the classroom.

[Anonymous]

OP I would not worry about this unless it starts affecting her grades.

You want her to be confident as an adult woman.

[Anonymous]

One of my daughters is a freshman in college who was declared “talkative/talks to much/chatty” by every teacher from kindergarten to high school. She is at a small liberal arts college and said that she has had three of her professors mention specifically how much they like that she is always participating in class discussion. So I figure it all works out in the end.

[Anonymous]

I think the teacher is trying to make the teacher's lives easier while also helping the other students to learn. Does the teacher allow kids who finish early to help those who don't? That could be a good solution.

[Anonymous]

We have never done anything about my DS' chattiness. I have heard he distracts his friends and they don't finish their work on time. Anyhow, in his last year of elementary, they placed him in a class without the majority of his friends, which was very disappointing for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I would not worry about this unless it starts affecting her grades.

You want her to be confident as an adult woman.

What would be your response if this were a boy?

[Anonymous]

Eh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the teacher is trying to make the teacher's lives easier while also helping the other students to learn. Does the teacher allow kids who finish early to help those who don't? That could be a good solution.

This. The teacher needs to provide her with something to do when she is done with her work. This is not really something you can manage at home with a kid this age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the teacher is trying to make the teacher's lives easier while also helping the other students to learn. Does the teacher allow kids who finish early to help those who don't? That could be a good solution.

This. The teacher needs to provide her with something to do when she is done with her work. This is not really something you can manage at home with a kid this age.

+1 This is teaching 101 stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I would not worry about this unless it starts affecting her grades.

You want her to be confident as an adult woman.

What would be your response if this were a boy?

+1

So much leeway given to girls. I know a girl like this and she is annoying to kids and parents alike.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the teacher is trying to make the teacher's lives easier while also helping the other students to learn. Does the teacher allow kids who finish early to help those who don't? That could be a good solution.

This. The teacher needs to provide her with something to do when she is done with her work. This is not really something you can manage at home with a kid this age.

Ask the teacher if she can bring a book to read quietly if she finishes early b

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the teacher is trying to make the teacher's lives easier while also helping the other students to learn. Does the teacher allow kids who finish early to help those who don't? That could be a good solution.

This. The teacher needs to provide her with something to do when she is done with her work. This is not really something you can manage at home with a kid this age.

I was the kid who finished ahead of the class. I read a book. Why is this supposedly so impossible now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I would not worry about this unless it starts affecting her grades.

You want her to be confident as an adult woman.

🙄

[Anonymous]

My son was like this. The teacher sat him at the front of the class. He would also read. And if any errands needed to be done he would send him out. He needed to run off energy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I would not worry about this unless it starts affecting her grades.

You want her to be confident as an adult woman.

What if it is impacting other students’ grades? Does that matter at all?