Do you feel attractive still but your spouse has no interest in you?

[Anonymous]

It’s so demoralizing.

[Anonymous]

My xH was like this. I’ve always been a solid 8 for my age, I get plenty of attention from other men, yet he never had any interest in me. And yea, it absolutely kills your soul.

Is your spouse male or female? Overall they lose interest for different reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My xH was like this. I’ve always been a solid 8 for my age, I get plenty of attention from other men, yet he never had any interest in me. And yea, it absolutely kills your soul.

Is your spouse male or female? Overall they lose interest for different reasons.

PP here. Female partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My xH was like this. I’ve always been a solid 8 for my age, I get plenty of attention from other men, yet he never had any interest in me. And yea, it absolutely kills your soul.

Is your spouse male or female? Overall they lose interest for different reasons.

Are you with someone now that appreciates you?

[Anonymous]

Attractiveness alone is really only about initial attention. Once you are well into a relationship it is only one piece of the puzzle.

Most men / women aren't going to only be about looks and ignore everything else that makes one a whole person. The dynamics in a relationship have little to do with looks.

If you have put too much value on your looks, that can be an issue as you might have overestimated how much that mattered in your relationship.

Other men are going to show attention for looks as they aren't in a relationship with you and so that is all they are going on / all that matters. You can't compare how your partner sees you to how random men see you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My xH was like this. I’ve always been a solid 8 for my age, I get plenty of attention from other men, yet he never had any interest in me. And yea, it absolutely kills your soul.

Is your spouse male or female? Overall they lose interest for different reasons.

This for me too. It was awful. He would tell me I was his hot wife, but never seemed turned on my me.

My boyfriend now, though, enjoys the hell out of me and it feels good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My xH was like this. I’ve always been a solid 8 for my age, I get plenty of attention from other men, yet he never had any interest in me. And yea, it absolutely kills your soul.

Is your spouse male or female? Overall they lose interest for different reasons.

Are you with someone now that appreciates you?

Ha, yes. He’s 16 years younger than my xH, a solid 9, athletic, last night we were up until 2am going multiple rounds. Love that guy.

[Anonymous]

I guess shallow people attract shallow people. If all you care about is that he / she is a 9, then find someone else for whom that is also all that matters. And stick to hook ups rather than relationships. Why marry if looks are all the matters? Just find someone who doesn't care about anything except how hot you are and will fawn over your looks.

Most people care about personality and values and integrity and beliefs and attitudes and responsibilities and how people treat others when looking for a spouse and being an 8 or a 9 doesn't really do much beyond getting your foot in the door and finding someone to have sex with you even if you aren't a good or nice person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My xH was like this. I’ve always been a solid 8 for my age, I get plenty of attention from other men, yet he never had any interest in me. And yea, it absolutely kills your soul.

Is your spouse male or female? Overall they lose interest for different reasons.

Are you with someone now that appreciates you?

Ha, yes. He’s 16 years younger than my xH, a solid 9, athletic, last night we were up until 2am going multiple rounds. Love that guy.

How old are you and him? Happy you found someone!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess shallow people attract shallow people. If all you care about is that he / she is a 9, then find someone else for whom that is also all that matters. And stick to hook ups rather than relationships. Why marry if looks are all the matters? Just find someone who doesn't care about anything except how hot you are and will fawn over your looks.

Most people care about personality and values and integrity and beliefs and attitudes and responsibilities and how people treat others when looking for a spouse and being an 8 or a 9 doesn't really do much beyond getting your foot in the door and finding someone to have sex with you even if you aren't a good or nice person.

Yeah. It takes no substance whatsoever to turn a head. Keeping it turned is a better indicator of value.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My xH was like this. I’ve always been a solid 8 for my age, I get plenty of attention from other men, yet he never had any interest in me. And yea, it absolutely kills your soul.

Is your spouse male or female? Overall they lose interest for different reasons.

PP here. Female partner.

Men will sacrifice their happiness for their marriage and family. Women will sacrifice their marriage and family for their happiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My xH was like this. I’ve always been a solid 8 for my age, I get plenty of attention from other men, yet he never had any interest in me. And yea, it absolutely kills your soul.

Is your spouse male or female? Overall they lose interest for different reasons.

PP here. Female partner.

Men will sacrifice their happiness for their marriage and family. Women will sacrifice their marriage and family for their happiness.

Is that an excuse for not banging your wife?

And maybe if men were to speak up about their unhappiness instead of repressing their true feelings out of some misguided martyrdom and actually tried to connect with their wives more marriages would be saved.

[Anonymous]

Maybe your personality made you unattractive to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My xH was like this. I’ve always been a solid 8 for my age, I get plenty of attention from other men, yet he never had any interest in me. And yea, it absolutely kills your soul.

Is your spouse male or female? Overall they lose interest for different reasons.

PP here. Female partner.

Men will sacrifice their happiness for their marriage and family. Women will sacrifice their marriage and family for their happiness.

Is that an excuse for not banging your wife?

And maybe if men were to speak up about their unhappiness instead of repressing their true feelings out of some misguided martyrdom and actually tried to connect with their wives more marriages would be saved.

Read the threads where posters are talking about how their husbands have said they are unhappy or where a man posts about being unhappy - they are met with nothing with scorn and vitrol and criticism. Many responses are about how unattractive that is, and how it is just adding stress to the wife, and what a loser, and how it is his responsibility to deal with any issues he has without it affecting his wife or family. I don't know if I have ever seen a positive response in a thread about a man sharing negative emotions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My xH was like this. I’ve always been a solid 8 for my age, I get plenty of attention from other men, yet he never had any interest in me. And yea, it absolutely kills your soul.

Is your spouse male or female? Overall they lose interest for different reasons.

PP here. Female partner.

Men will sacrifice their happiness for their marriage and family. Women will sacrifice their marriage and family for their happiness.

Still salty that your wife dumped your sorry a$$?