I’m a recovering (fill in the blank)

[Anonymous]

I’m a recovering busybody. I realize the poisonous impact my not so subtle dirt digging has and it makes me sad how I used gossip to build relationships.

What are you a former?

[Anonymous]

Alcoholic

[Anonymous]

Person who shrinks their personality to suit others

[Anonymous]

Super anxious person!

My whole life, really, but I've made major strides in the last 10 years (I'm 41) and new people I befriends are surprised to hear about my anxiety.

Having three kids really helped. Perfection is impossible, so you might as well just enjoy the chaos!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Alcoholic

Please tell your story!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Person who shrinks their personality to suit others

What was your wake up call?

When was one of the first times you didn’t shrink?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Super anxious person!

My whole life, really, but I've made major strides in the last 10 years (I'm 41) and new people I befriends are surprised to hear about my anxiety.

Having three kids really helped. Perfection is impossible, so you might as well just enjoy the chaos!

What are your coping strategies? Kids have made me more anxious

[Anonymous]

OP here…. Still being a busybody in my replies!!! I said recovering… not cured

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Person who shrinks their personality to suit others

What was your wake up call?

When was one of the first times you didn’t shrink?

I kind of think that menopause helped with that because hormones during menopause make you care less about nurturing others.

I kinda didn’t realize I was doing it 100%. I kind of thought I should be doing it to fit into society.

But anyway, it’s been about three years that I’ve started shedding myself of friends that require me to shrink.

I’ve just started being more myself and then if my friends make passive aggressive statements about it, I think maybe that’s not my person. Or maybe they just stop inviting me places cause they think I’m too much which is great because then I don’t have to dump them.

[Anonymous]

What are you a former?

Smoker
Nail biter
People pleaser
Victim

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Person who shrinks their personality to suit others

What was your wake up call?

When was one of the first times you didn’t shrink?

I kind of think that menopause helped with that because hormones during menopause make you care less about nurturing others.

I kinda didn’t realize I was doing it 100%. I kind of thought I should be doing it to fit into society.

But anyway, it’s been about three years that I’ve started shedding myself of friends that require me to shrink.

I’ve just started being more myself and then if my friends make passive aggressive statements about it, I think maybe that’s not my person. Or maybe they just stop inviting me places cause they think I’m too much which is great because then I don’t have to dump them.

That’s so interesting about the menopause effect. My sister and friends are a good 5-8 years older, so they had what I perceived as personality changes and now that I’m 40 I recognize situations in retrospect as simply their DGAF , self protective muscle getting stronger.

Can I ask what your “true self” does that makes certain friends back off? Like you are unabashed about your weird hobbies or you are the one dancing on the bar top after being the reliable doormat friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are you a former?

Smoker
Nail biter
People pleaser
Victim

The victim one is a hard one to drop!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a recovering busybody. I realize the poisonous impact my not so subtle dirt digging has and it makes me sad how I used gossip to build relationships.

What are you a former?

Doesn't everyone do this?

[Anonymous]

Obese person. Life is better skinny. There, I said it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a recovering busybody. I realize the poisonous impact my not so subtle dirt digging has and it makes me sad how I used gossip to build relationships.

What are you a former?

Doesn't everyone do this?

Yea, but there’s a line between ooh this is juicy and throwing people under the bus to serve a selfish purpose