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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Person who shrinks their personality to suit others[/quote]

What was your wake up call?

When was one of the first times you didn’t shrink?[/quote]

I kind of think that menopause helped with that because hormones during menopause make you care less about nurturing others.

I kinda didn’t realize I was doing it 100%. I kind of thought I should be doing it to fit into society.

But anyway, it’s been about three years that I’ve started shedding myself of friends that require me to shrink.

I’ve just started being more myself and then if my friends make passive aggressive statements about it, I think maybe that’s not my person. Or maybe they just stop inviting me places cause they think I’m too much which is great because then I don’t have to dump them.[/quote]

That’s so interesting about the menopause effect. My sister and friends are a good 5-8 years older, so they had what I perceived as personality changes and now that I’m 40 I recognize situations in retrospect as simply their DGAF , self protective muscle getting stronger.

Can I ask what your “true self” does that makes certain friends back off? Like you are unabashed about your weird hobbies or you are the one dancing on the bar top after being the reliable doormat friend?[/quote]

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