Did dating after divorce bring your confidence back?

[Anonymous]

After a bad marriage brought it down.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely yes. My ex was not attracted to me. Plenty of other people are.

[Anonymous]

It was eye-opening for me because it gave pretty solid, immediate feedback w/r/t how the market valued and perceived me. Divorced after a ~30-year relationship wherein DW valued me so little at the end that I don't think she imagined anyone else could. As soon as I started reaching out for connection, I found that an ok-looking, financially comfortable divorced dad who says please and thank you, listens to women when they talk, and is not trying to trick or hurt anyone can do incredibly well in this town.

[Anonymous]

Well said

[Anonymous]

Some divorced women discover this too, but some are also disappointed.

[Anonymous]

Never lost it. Not sure why they tried to put me down. Perhaps to lift themselves up? I didn't cause their problems. Genetics and childhood did.

[Anonymous]

My confidence was never a derivative of male attention

[Anonymous]

I don't care what men think, so it did not really have an impact.

It did teach me that I am far more attractive then I really knew when I was younger, which is a shame.

I never focused on appearance and did not realize how attractive I am. But because I was never focused on this, my confidence level remains unchanged.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely yes. My ex was not attracted to me. Plenty of other people are.

That's a common mistake many people think.

"Honeymoon period" or getting "strange". It wears off.

[Anonymous]

Finding a hot, young AP certainly did without having to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Oh yeah! I was shocked when I started regularly getting approached in public after I took my ring off. I had no idea people would be interested in me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care what men think, so it did not really have an impact.

It did teach me that I am far more attractive then I really knew when I was younger, which is a shame.

I never focused on appearance and did not realize how attractive I am. But because I was never focused on this, my confidence level remains unchanged.

What is a shame about it? You had/have the right attitude. Relying on your appearance for confidence/self esteem is a losing proposition.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Divorced after 25 years of marriage. In the DMV, I had all the dates that I wanted, with a broad range of professional women ranging from my age to 10 years younger than me. Five years after my divorce, I remarried.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. Divorced after 25 years of marriage. In the DMV, I had all the dates that I wanted, with a broad range of professional women ranging from my age to 10 years younger than me. Five years after my divorce, I remarried.

How's the second marriage going?