An insane surrogacy story

[Anonymous]

https://www.wired.com/story/the-baby-died-whose-fault-is-it-surrogate-pregnancy/

I could not stop reading this story this morning - Silicon Valley venture capitalist hires a surrogate, difficult pregnancy results in a stillbirth, and the venture capitalist goes (legal and internet) guns blazing against the surrogate.

I believe surrogacy should be void against public policy with narrow exceptions, and this case is a huge part of why I believe that.

[Anonymous]

Wow, that woman is mentally unstable.

[Anonymous]

This Bi is mentally ill and should not be having any children. She’s abusing her money and power to go after someone who tried to do her a big favor. Disgusting rich privilege.

[Anonymous]

What did the rich person do?

I’m not going to read a long article. Usually these things can be summarized in a few sentences.

[Anonymous]

Does the same person keep posting surrogacy articles? What a weird obsession.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did the rich person do?

I’m not going to read a long article. Usually these things can be summarized in a few sentences.

We use AI to embiggen the articles and then use AI to summarize them. What a world.

[Anonymous]

Wow. I don’t even know what else to say.

[Anonymous]

I read the whole thing.

What's crazy to me is that Cindy Bi is so mentally ill that she thinks telling all to the reporter is going to make HER look GOOD. Serious yikes to the whole situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did the rich person do?

I’m not going to read a long article. Usually these things can be summarized in a few sentences.

Its not even that long. Can no one read anything any more?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did the rich person do?

I’m not going to read a long article. Usually these things can be summarized in a few sentences.

Everything possible to try to wreck the life of the surrogate who experienced still birth while hospitalized. Suing her, cutting off payments, leaving surrogate on the hook for hospital bills (including weeks of inpatient monitoring). Bi wants her to go to jail, lose her own son, etc.

Also mentions that placental problems are due to the dna of the embryo and this isn’t routinely disclosed to the GC. Gestational diabetes, placenta previa, abruption, etc.

Bi also said her next GC was perfect, despite the fact that her GC experienced severe bleeding necessitating an emergency hysterectomy and ICU admission with intubation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I read the whole thing.

What's crazy to me is that Cindy Bi is so mentally ill that she thinks telling all to the reporter is going to make HER look GOOD. Serious yikes to the whole situation.

+1

Crazy story. Thanks for sharing, OP

[Anonymous]

Archive.is link
https://archive.is/mYMVz

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What did the rich person do?

I’m not going to read a long article. Usually these things can be summarized in a few sentences.

Rich VC lady hired surrogate. Blamed surrogate for placenta-related stillbirth in 7 month. Violated privacy of surrogate. Sued surrogate and others re: surrogate's life decisions such as changing health insurance due to switching jobs and how surrogate dealt with ambiguous medical decisions near the stillbirth. Rich lady has mental health issues and control issues. Now sees herself as a crusader but she's mainly just torturing her surrogate for an outcome that can't be fixed.

Rich lady has spent all her money on surrogacy and lawsuits. Her second surrogate gave birth successfully but needed a hysterectomy. Rich lady probably should have chosen to have her own kids herself because she couldn't mentally handle imperfect outcomes and outsourcing her health risks.

TL;DR - women have to sacrifice something to have kids. They get to choose what that is, but choices are real and have serious consequences (money, career, health, happiness, sanity). Also, being a surrogate is a bad idea.

[Anonymous]

This is what happens when you commodify babies, people's bodies, and their biological material.

If you can buy and sell it, which is what Bi did when she hired a surrogate, moral rules tend to become less relevant.

[Anonymous]

It's an article about power imbalance and the cruelty and suffering that the rich can impose on those who have less.

My heart goes out to the surrogate.