Adult daughter is fat
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Anonymous
| She was always thin growing up and active. Now she works full time but is overweight. I’m worried how this will affect her health and marriage potential. Do I bring it up? Or ask if she’s visiting the doctor recently. I was thinking GLP 1 could be an option but I don’t want to push it. |
Anonymous
Read your thread title with a special emphasis on the word ADULT. Then, STFU about this with your daughter - poor woman having a parent like you. |
Anonymous
| She knows. And only she can change her weight. Unless she asks for advice, please just ignore it, because you can't fix it and will only risk damaging your relationship. |
Anonymous
As someone who struggled with weight and was criticized by my mother I would advice you to keep your thoughts to yourself of you want her to continue visiting. My mom has been dead for eight years and I still struggle with the effect that the weight criticism had on my self esteem. It is not useful and will make her resent you. Only criticize her body if you wish to not see her. |
Anonymous
| You never mention her weight or concern for her marriage prospects. You express concern for her health. Is she eating nutritious foods? Is she getting enough exercise? Is she seeing a doctor for yearly well-checks? These are normal things for mothers to be concerned about. Is she young and new to working full time? Ask if there’s anything you can do to help her with this transition to being 100% self supporting. A meal delivery service? A gym membership to try fun classes and meet new people? Tell her you love her and you’re trying to figure out how to mother an adult. |
Anonymous
| Why is she not on ozempic like other fat adults? |
Anonymous
This is absolutely not useful because she will just hear that you don't accept her because of her weight. It absolutely does not help an overweight person to complain to them about their weight and instead breeds resentment of the person doing the criticizing. |
Anonymous
She may not wish to risk blindness? |
Anonymous
| Leave it alone OP or you may increase her stress eating. |
Anonymous
| Trolls are out full force today |
Anonymous
| If this isn’t a troll, which I doubt, you say nothing. She’s well aware of her weight and since she’s an adult you don’t know if she and her doctor are working through medical issues she hasn’t shared with you. Unless she asks, you don’t address it. |
Anonymous
| Is there information about her weight or health that you know and she doesn't? If so, share that information. If not, STFU. |
Anonymous
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She knows she is overweight OP. Don't ruin your relationship with your daughter like my parents did with me, over how much I weighed.
Turns out I have a thyroid problem that took ten years to be diagnosed. I hated every last minute I spent with my parents until they died. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
| mine is too. I don't comment on weight but just ask if she is getting enough exercise. I'm a fitness instructor, so she knows physical activity is important, not an insult. And, I have fluctuated with my weight over my lifetime, being 60lbs overweight twice, I know what it feels like to be overweight and unmotivated. She'll get there when she's ready. |