Single men in 50s - what are you looking for when dating?

[Anonymous]

What are you looking for in a woman?

[Anonymous]

Let me help you:
If he is rich: a kind woman with her own financial resources who will think everything he does is great. If she is not already financially independent she needs to be smoking hot but also intelligent/educated and presentable. Unless he is an ahole, in which case smoking hot alone will suffice.
If he is poor: a nonjudgmental mother type to tell them they aren’t a loser.

[Anonymous]

Off the top of my head:

- in good physical shape - she takes care of herself
- emotional maturity - not still hung up on the past, willing to be vulnerable herself and accepting of me
- kids at similar stage
- financial independence
- some common interests

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me help you:
If he is rich: a kind woman with her own financial resources who will think everything he does is great. If she is not already financially independent she needs to be smoking hot but also intelligent/educated and presentable. Unless he is an ahole, in which case smoking hot alone will suffice.
If he is poor: a nonjudgmental mother type to tell them they aren’t a loser.

obviously written by a bitter woman, not a man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Off the top of my head:

- in good physical shape - she takes care of herself
- emotional maturity - not still hung up on the past, willing to be vulnerable herself and accepting of me
- kids at similar stage
- financial independence
- some common interests

How come chemistry that’s mentioned so often by men is not on the list?

[Anonymous]

My requirements really aren't all that demanding. Someone who takes care of herself and dresses well. Educated and financially stable. Physically active.

I'm definitely looking for women who aren't lying about their age. I meet a lot of them who don't look at all like their OLD photos or the age given in their profile. There have been a number of cases where I would have liked her if she'd been honest about her age, and posted recent photos, but I couldn't ignore the fact that she was lying about it. So, don't do that.

I still have one kid at home (DD in high school). I keep meeting women who are already empty nesters and don't want to date someone who isn't an empty nester. That's my problem not theirs, of course. But I'm looking for someone who is OK with me having a kid 50/50.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me help you:
If he is rich: a kind woman with her own financial resources who will think everything he does is great. If she is not already financially independent she needs to be smoking hot but also intelligent/educated and presentable. Unless he is an ahole, in which case smoking hot alone will suffice.
If he is poor: a nonjudgmental mother type to tell them they aren’t a loser.

obviously written by a bitter woman, not a man

Bitter women are bitter because of men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My requirements really aren't all that demanding. Someone who takes care of herself and dresses well. Educated and financially stable. Physically active.

I'm definitely looking for women who aren't lying about their age. I meet a lot of them who don't look at all like their OLD photos or the age given in their profile. There have been a number of cases where I would have liked her if she'd been honest about her age, and posted recent photos, but I couldn't ignore the fact that she was lying about it. So, don't do that.

I still have one kid at home (DD in high school). I keep meeting women who are already empty nesters and don't want to date someone who isn't an empty nester. That's my problem not theirs, of course. But I'm looking for someone who is OK with me having a kid 50/50.

They may not have lied. Some people simply look older and or age much sooner than others. For example some people from some ethnicities can look 50 while they are only 40. So I don't think they are lying. They just look old.

[Anonymous]

This. I’m 55 and look late 40s. My friend in her late 40s looks older than I do, thanks to sunbathing and fair skin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me help you:
If he is rich: a kind woman with her own financial resources who will think everything he does is great. If she is not already financially independent she needs to be smoking hot but also intelligent/educated and presentable. Unless he is an ahole, in which case smoking hot alone will suffice.
If he is poor: a nonjudgmental mother type to tell them they aren’t a loser.

obviously written by a bitter woman, not a man

Bitter women are bitter because of men.

Not in my experience. Although they often believe that but once free of the man remain unhappy and bitter. Because it never was the man.

[Anonymous]

A women a friend is dating looked much older than him and I felt he is getting duped as he thought of her as younger but obviously I didn't say anything. It turned out she went to school with my cousin and just looks older due to bad genes and difficult life.

[Anonymous]

Skinny
Pretty
Under 40

[Anonymous]

Just a normal woman not like 9:56.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me help you:
If he is rich: a kind woman with her own financial resources who will think everything he does is great. If she is not already financially independent she needs to be smoking hot but also intelligent/educated and presentable. Unless he is an ahole, in which case smoking hot alone will suffice.
If he is poor: a nonjudgmental mother type to tell them they aren’t a loser.

obviously written by a bitter woman, not a man

Bitter women are bitter because of men.

The best women I know aren't bitter at all. Bitter women find bad men and blame the men for what was always there. To blame the men is to get the causation backwards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My requirements really aren't all that demanding. Someone who takes care of herself and dresses well. Educated and financially stable. Physically active.

I'm definitely looking for women who aren't lying about their age. I meet a lot of them who don't look at all like their OLD photos or the age given in their profile. There have been a number of cases where I would have liked her if she'd been honest about her age, and posted recent photos, but I couldn't ignore the fact that she was lying about it. So, don't do that.

I still have one kid at home (DD in high school). I keep meeting women who are already empty nesters and don't want to date someone who isn't an empty nester. That's my problem not theirs, of course. But I'm looking for someone who is OK with me having a kid 50/50.

The issue is that users apply age cut offs in search. I had to reduce age by 2 years to avoid the cutoff but I disclose my actual age once we match. I look great for my age and post current photos, so never had issues with that.

And yes, men need to look for women who have similar life stage and schedule with kids. It would be unfair for her to stay alone half weekends, if the man has kids and she doesn’t