Are you bothered by your partner's sounds during intimacy?

[Anonymous]

Is it a bad sign if you find them annoying?

[Anonymous]

What sound are you not liking?

[Anonymous]

Yes he sounds kind of pathetic

[Anonymous]

Like yelling other people’s names?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes he sounds kind of pathetic

Ew. I don’t know what it means but I hate it 🤣!

Like does he yelp like a chihuahua?

[Anonymous]

OMG. Yes.

Look, I absolutely hate sleeping with men who are silent. I need dirty talk and grunts.

But a surprising number of men make little high pitched moans, and it irritates TF out of me. Currently FWB with a guy who just whines these little “mm!”s and it’s like nails on a chalkboard. He also licks his lips every 5 seconds and I can’t stand that either. But, he eats good you-know-what, so I tolerate it.

I just want a masculine man to GROWL at me, ya know? Something hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OMG. Yes.

Look, I absolutely hate sleeping with men who are silent. I need dirty talk and grunts.

But a surprising number of men make little high pitched moans, and it irritates TF out of me. Currently FWB with a guy who just whines these little “mm!”s and it’s like nails on a chalkboard. He also licks his lips every 5 seconds and I can’t stand that either. But, he eats good you-know-what, so I tolerate it.

I just want a masculine man to GROWL at me, ya know? Something hot.

This reminds me of the “dame un grrr” song and the guy asks “un que?”

[Anonymous]

Yes, that's a problem. And if we couldn't work through it as mature adults, it would be a deal breaker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, that's a problem. And if we couldn't work through it as mature adults, it would be a deal breaker.

Work through it?

I feel like a lot of sounds are involuntary or close to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, that's a problem. And if we couldn't work through it as mature adults, it would be a deal breaker.

Work through it?

I feel like a lot of sounds are involuntary or close to it.

NP and agree. If you want to make your partner self conscious and inhibited, then definitely bring it up. Otherwise decide whether or not you can deal with it. But it’s a basic compatibility thing. I’d hate to be thought of like that FWB above.

[Anonymous]

I appreciate any sound a woman makes. So many of them are way too silent. They trained themselves to be like that so their children didn't hear them and now it's a habit they can't break. Give me a screamer every time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate any sound a woman makes. So many of them are way too silent. They trained themselves to be like that so their children didn't hear them and now it's a habit they can't break. Give me a screamer every time.

I feel like for the most part screaming isn't natural but performative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, that's a problem. And if we couldn't work through it as mature adults, it would be a deal breaker.

Work through it?

I feel like a lot of sounds are involuntary or close to it.

Mostly. But I think a lot of people have fallen into performative sounds thanks to porn etc. They mimic what they think is supposed to be sexy. Even if you don't watch porn etc yourself, the influences have still infiltrated society/intimacy. So I think it could be worked through if you were fairly certain it was performative. Now, if that's their natural sound and it's bothering you I'd take it as a sign y'all aren't a good match, at least not permanently. Ideally, your partner's sounds should turn you on and urge you forward not annoy or disgust you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, that's a problem. And if we couldn't work through it as mature adults, it would be a deal breaker.

Work through it?

I feel like a lot of sounds are involuntary or close to it.

NP and agree. If you want to make your partner self conscious and inhibited, then definitely bring it up. Otherwise decide whether or not you can deal with it. But it’s a basic compatibility thing. I’d hate to be thought of like that FWB above.

One of DH"s exes told him he sounded like a goose. that took some work for us to get over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate any sound a woman makes. So many of them are way too silent. They trained themselves to be like that so their children didn't hear them and now it's a habit they can't break. Give me a screamer every time.

You’re right but it’s not the kids. We get feedback from every corner and very early on that our sexuality, pleasure and desire needs to be hidden because it’s wrong and shameful. Just look at this board!

My very first boyfriend thought I was too loud. I was definitely not performing. Took me five other partners over 20 years before I allowed myself a moan here and there. You don’t wanna hear me now. 🤣

It’s amazing how much misogyny is counterproductive for all of society, including the quality of sex everyone (men included) has.