80% of women swipe on just 20% of men on dating apps

[Anonymous]

Studies have consistently found that women only swipe on the top 20% of men.

These repeatable results mean that 80% of men will experience perpetual rejection if they try to date.

No wonder there is a loneliness epidemic in the United States. This needs to stop.


How do we reverse / stop this from happening ?

[Anonymous]

You can't stop it. Women evolved to maximize their reproductive opportunities because they spend 9 months carrying the child and then a period breastfeeding.

Surviving societies "solved" this problem by taking rights away from women and making them dependent on men. Couple economic empowerment with modern birth control, and you get the status quo.

This doesn't get fixed until an old school solution is imposed on women, and that's not happening anytime soon. Women understandably love the status quo. Look how many here prefer being alone to being stuck with a manchild. But make no mistake, as we are seeing in places ranging from Italy to Korea, this status quo won't last because it doesn't replace itself.

The future belongs to whoever forces women to have babies. Right now, that's not the West or East.

[Anonymous]

Maybe men need to focus on self-improvement, health, their weight, appearance, good fashion, etc. just like women do.
In our society, females are largely trained from childhood that you have to look good to be noticed. Men gotta catch up if they want to be seen.

[Anonymous]

Remember the story about "West Elm Caleb"?
Tall, handsome, straight furniture designer who was "dating" every young woman in NYC and they were all crying about him on social media because they all thought they were his one true love.
Men will do whatever they can get away with. It's because we carry the babies that we need to be picky. Part of that means not sleeping with a guy the day you meet him and figuring out that, oh, this guy will never commit and isn't worth my time.

[Anonymous]

It's beautiful being in that 20 percent though.

[Anonymous]

80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

[Anonymous]

I think average people of any gender have a tough time on the apps. Maybe try to meet people in person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't stop it. Women evolved to maximize their reproductive opportunities because they spend 9 months carrying the child and then a period breastfeeding.

Surviving societies "solved" this problem by taking rights away from women and making them dependent on men. Couple economic empowerment with modern birth control, and you get the status quo.

This doesn't get fixed until an old school solution is imposed on women, and that's not happening anytime soon. Women understandably love the status quo. Look how many here prefer being alone to being stuck with a manchild. But make no mistake, as we are seeing in places ranging from Italy to Korea, this status quo won't last because it doesn't replace itself.

The future belongs to whoever forces women to have babies. Right now, that's not the West or East.

Ha. Oh I'm sure you're getting all the dates with that attitude. Maybe your best bet would be to look for another one of those 80% men to date. You two might get along great!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:80% of rejected men should figure out why they aren't like the successful men and make adjustments if they don't want to be alone.

This. Maybe a matriarchal society is not a bad thing. We have never really tried it.

[Anonymous]

It may be the context of the apps that are causing people to pick based on superficial factors when they don't know much about the person. The man I am currently dating is 5'5". He is great and I am only 5'4", so still taller than me. But we met IRL at church, I don't know that I would have picked him on the apps.

[Anonymous]

We need to get back to the "set up". At least then you know the bare minimum: the guy is actually single, the guy has friends who like him enough to recommend him, and the guy can't ghost you without affecting those friendships.
I online dated a string of artsy losers who had multiple dumb girls like me on standby until a coworker set me up with my husband.

[Anonymous]

I’m bisexual and out of pure interest like to scroll through female profiles sometimes. Many, many attractive women with well-thought profiles looking for relationships. When I scroll through male profiles- lazy fat faces and bodies, no thoughts in the profile to talk about, their interests are swatch sports with beer on weekends, dirty T-shirts etc. No thank you - I would rather be alone and travel with friends and relatives.

A man has to invest in himself : online dating is all about how you represent yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Remember the story about "West Elm Caleb"?
Tall, handsome, straight furniture designer who was "dating" every young woman in NYC and they were all crying about him on social media because they all thought they were his one true love.
Men will do whatever they can get away with. It's because we carry the babies that we need to be picky. Part of that means not sleeping with a guy the day you meet him and figuring out that, oh, this guy will never commit and isn't worth my time.

As West End Caleb showed, women don't want to make that choice. Instead, they get mad and blame Caleb for their choices.

[Anonymous]

Source??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We need to get back to the "set up". At least then you know the bare minimum: the guy is actually single, the guy has friends who like him enough to recommend him, and the guy can't ghost you without affecting those friendships.
I online dated a string of artsy losers who had multiple dumb girls like me on standby until a coworker set me up with my husband.

The problem is that EVERYONE is online now. Men who are catches have tried OLD and realized they can shop sampling forever. All men I was set up with were just the reflection of online dating dynamics. And not as good looking as I would have picked for myself when going online