Another “which rooms” shared beach house

[Anonymous]

Do you want to judge a shared beach house - “which rooms does everyone get?” - situation? I have a new one.

Won’t post if everyone hates this.

[Anonymous]

I'm here for it!

[Anonymous]

yes please

[Anonymous]

Yes!

[Anonymous]

The situation already unfolded, so your comments are after the fact.

4 adult kids and their spouses. Mom and dad (aka Grandma and Grandpa too)
.
3 king rooms. G&G gets one of course. It was agreed to pay equally across families but the two oldest kids were extra excited for the King rooms, and they paid a little more share.
3rd kid - photos showed details of a room and bathroom they they felt fit their needs perfectly.

For the 4th adult sibling—

Last two available rooms are close in appearance. With the pictures it’s hard to tell if one is bigger/better, where they are positioned in the house, or even which bathroom matches which room. It was decided that 4th child, and finally, the college daughter of oldest child would take the last two available rooms. It would be decided on arrival.

The family, oldest child, with a college-aged daughter arrived early. They were at most an hour from the rental, and they wanted to be the first in. By chance, in the morning, the homeowners also said there hadn’t been a previous stay the night before. The house was ready and they could let us all have early check in. Oldest sibling’s family immediately headed there to open in, about 4 hours early.

The college daughter wanted to choose her room before the youngest son's family arrived. He was coming from much further away. She did wait a couple of hours before asking. The youngest son had planned to arrive at normal check-in time and of course, longer road trips always get a little delayed. The youngest son's family felt it was fair for them as paying adults to prioritize their needs, given they were traveling with young kids too. Phone calls were made between siblings. The oldest child and Grandma confirmed the rooms were almost the same. *some unspoken details here about grandma spoiling this grandchild unevenly* So the trust over these statements was not strong. The rooms faced different directions: north vs south. The bathrooms were not exactly the same. Now there were up to 2 hours already, and possibly 4 more hours that the college student was in limbo. Oldest daughter asked if they could choose, asked if she could unpack (and the youngest son could always reverse the choice), asked if she could at least take a shower. Youngest son said no, and it would be more annoying to make her move. Still preferred to see the spaces first. But yes, take the shower, that’s not a big deal. But please don’t unpack.

Youngest son and his family arrived, and rooms were in fact quite the same. The slightly nicer bathroom and the direction of the room tipped the decision.

I can see how college student and her mom would be annoyed to be stuck with suitcases in the hallway. But she was getting quite a nice room and nobody paid extra for it. It was also not their fault that this is how the arrangement worked out. Everyone felt it was ok for her to get this extra room for free. No one planned to use it besides her.

I can see how youngest son were the last to choose, wanted to ensure the nicer situation for their vacation. Even if was minor, it was more their right to choose before a college student. It was a little about family status. This son and wife were often the college student in this situation (years ago), but really were only given the worst room / the couch in the living room in times past. What you get for a free beach trip. Lucky for this younger student to get a room to herself and so nice, that it’s debatable about which room is nicer..as nice as people 20 years older than her, with their own kids, etc.

I am one of the siblings. I was in view of the tension as we arrived in middle of their arrivals. I take the side of my younger brother, but otoh, it’s vacation, he could have also relaxed and trusted the oldest sister to choose. She did confirm how close the quality was. She had to hear her child complain (a normal amount, not too much) on their first day.

I think everyone is over it but me. I’m not bothered, but I love the tedious discussions about which rooms shared family vacations get. I thought it played out well, but it’s so odd to see people having selfish objectives but also just trying to stand up for themselves. This is why I’m on my brother’s side. He was standing up for himself as an equally paying adult, taking care of a wife and family. College student wanted a shower and to unpack.

Is it fair how this played out?

[Anonymous]

I would tell the granddaughter to STFU

[Anonymous]

Why didn't the college student hang out and shower in the room her parents were occupying? She was acting entitled and ridiculous.

Next time, I'd either get more master bedrooms/king suites, or let the youngest brother choose before arrival. You can always call the reality company to answer questions about layout etc.

[Anonymous]

I think you’re all completely insane and I honestly can’t imagine being this fussed about bedrooms in a rental house you’ll be at for a week tops.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't the college student hang out and shower in the room her parents were occupying? She was acting entitled and ridiculous.

Next time, I'd either get more master bedrooms/king suites, or let the youngest brother choose before arrival. You can always call the reality company to answer questions about layout etc.

All of this.

[Anonymous]

I'm on your brother's side. The granddaughter and family didn't have to arrive so early; if they chose to do so, oh well, she'll have to cool her heels and wait to shower (why was this so urgent anyway??) or use her parents' shower until your brother arrived and chose his room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't the college student hang out and shower in the room her parents were occupying? She was acting entitled and ridiculous.

Next time, I'd either get more master bedrooms/king suites, or let the youngest brother choose before arrival. You can always call the reality company to answer questions about layout etc.

All of this.

+2 Super entitled.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the reminder why DH and I stopped sharing beach houses with family and friends.

[Anonymous]

The college kid is downright rude. She should have waited politely, instead of making all this to-do about needing a shower and unpacking. Thank goodness the other relative stood their ground.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The situation already unfolded, so your comments are after the fact.

4 adult kids and their spouses. Mom and dad (aka Grandma and Grandpa too)
.
3 king rooms. G&G gets one of course. It was agreed to pay equally across families but the two oldest kids were extra excited for the King rooms, and they paid a little more share.
3rd kid - photos showed details of a room and bathroom they they felt fit their needs perfectly.

For the 4th adult sibling—

Last two available rooms are close in appearance. With the pictures it’s hard to tell if one is bigger/better, where they are positioned in the house, or even which bathroom matches which room. It was decided that 4th child, and finally, the college daughter of oldest child would take the last two available rooms. It would be decided on arrival.

The family, oldest child, with a college-aged daughter arrived early. They were at most an hour from the rental, and they wanted to be the first in. By chance, in the morning, the homeowners also said there hadn’t been a previous stay the night before. The house was ready and they could let us all have early check in. Oldest sibling’s family immediately headed there to open in, about 4 hours early.

The college daughter wanted to choose her room before the youngest son's family arrived. He was coming from much further away. She did wait a couple of hours before asking. The youngest son had planned to arrive at normal check-in time and of course, longer road trips always get a little delayed. The youngest son's family felt it was fair for them as paying adults to prioritize their needs, given they were traveling with young kids too. Phone calls were made between siblings. The oldest child and Grandma confirmed the rooms were almost the same. *some unspoken details here about grandma spoiling this grandchild unevenly* So the trust over these statements was not strong. The rooms faced different directions: north vs south. The bathrooms were not exactly the same. Now there were up to 2 hours already, and possibly 4 more hours that the college student was in limbo. Oldest daughter asked if they could choose, asked if she could unpack (and the youngest son could always reverse the choice), asked if she could at least take a shower. Youngest son said no, and it would be more annoying to make her move. Still preferred to see the spaces first. But yes, take the shower, that’s not a big deal. But please don’t unpack.

Youngest son and his family arrived, and rooms were in fact quite the same. The slightly nicer bathroom and the direction of the room tipped the decision.

I can see how college student and her mom would be annoyed to be stuck with suitcases in the hallway. But she was getting quite a nice room and nobody paid extra for it. It was also not their fault that this is how the arrangement worked out. Everyone felt it was ok for her to get this extra room for free. No one planned to use it besides her.

I can see how youngest son were the last to choose, wanted to ensure the nicer situation for their vacation. Even if was minor, it was more their right to choose before a college student. It was a little about family status. This son and wife were often the college student in this situation (years ago), but really were only given the worst room / the couch in the living room in times past. What you get for a free beach trip. Lucky for this younger student to get a room to herself and so nice, that it’s debatable about which room is nicer..as nice as people 20 years older than her, with their own kids, etc.

I am one of the siblings. I was in view of the tension as we arrived in middle of their arrivals. I take the side of my younger brother, but otoh, it’s vacation, he could have also relaxed and trusted the oldest sister to choose. She did confirm how close the quality was. She had to hear her child complain (a normal amount, not too much) on their first day.

I think everyone is over it but me. I’m not bothered, but I love the tedious discussions about which rooms shared family vacations get. I thought it played out well, but it’s so odd to see people having selfish objectives but also just trying to stand up for themselves. This is why I’m on my brother’s side. He was standing up for himself as an equally paying adult, taking care of a wife and family. College student wanted a shower and to unpack.

Is it fair how this played out?

No. There is no normal amount of complaining allowed. It's their problem if they want to arrive before everyone else. They sit and wait.

[Anonymous]

So, the youngest brother and his wife and kids got next to last choice in rooms? And Oldest brother got first choice of rooms AND a second room for his kids?