Therapist worsening the problem?

[Anonymous]

Has anyone sent their slightly depressed, somewhat sad, teen to a therapist and found that it worsened the situation? That they came out with a victim mentality and resenting their parents for doing basic parenting? I feel like my daughter got more moody and sulky after a year therapy instead of better, and now it’s rubbing off on her younger siblings. A friend of mine said the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Not all therapists are good therapists.

[Anonymous]

Yes! Cousin daughter got substantially worse. Her mindset changed to nothing was her fault and everyone should have to pivot to make her life easier. There doesn’t seem to be a middle ground. Cousin’s daughter especially blames cousin (her mom) for everything. Cousin is puzzled since she has really been a good parent and puts her kids first.

[Anonymous]

Court-mandated divorce therapist for my friend's kid.

Kept pushing kid to take an interest in dad's new baby (half sister) when they were 12 years apart in age.

Covid isolation ended the therapy. No good came of it.

[Anonymous]

Talk therapy only = rumination, especially in teens.

[Anonymous]

yes! how many chiropractors does it take to put in a lightbulb? only one, but it takes them 50 tries. many therapists are often one step below that. Their main goal seems to be billing.

[Anonymous]

Both my teens have done therapy and this has not been our case either time.

Are you sure it’s the therapy and not social media that’s making them feel like victims, etc?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Court-mandated divorce therapist for my friend's kid.

Kept pushing kid to take an interest in dad's new baby (half sister) when they were 12 years apart in age.

Covid isolation ended the therapy. No good came of it.

Is this a joke?

I would always want my kids to take an interest in their other parent’s baby. It’s their sibling. I would be doing my kid a disservice by not telling them that siblings are important.

You want women’s freedom, but that’s also the freedom to be let go.

[Anonymous]

My mom sent me to a therapist when my grandfather died (he was like a father to me). She kept wanting to talk about my absent father every session. Finally I told her that no amount of talking will make my father care enough about me to give a shi- so I wanted to stop talking about him.

Sometimes talking about things just pisses you off because there isn’t a damn thing you can do to change the situation. I ended the sessions and I’m glad I did.

[Anonymous]

This is my fear

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk therapy only = rumination, especially in teens.

This is exactly my thoughts. And they are not ruminating over the puppies and rainbows of their lives. The negativity seems inevitable.

There are times that it’s useful and necessary like when there’s a major trauma.

[Anonymous]

We had one take our younger kid on a wild ride and blamed us as the problem. We reported her and she is no longer w/ the practice and we of course left that practice and did alot more homework when finding a new one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all therapists are good therapists.

This is finally starting to sink in. It’s really hard to figure it out when therapy is new to you.

[Anonymous]

Therapists are a scam. Sorry, true. A good friend or family member who’s pragmatic and empathetic can do an equal or better job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Court-mandated divorce therapist for my friend's kid.

Kept pushing kid to take an interest in dad's new baby (half sister) when they were 12 years apart in age.

Covid isolation ended the therapy. No good came of it.

Is this a joke?

I would always want my kids to take an interest in their other parent’s baby. It’s their sibling. I would be doing my kid a disservice by not telling them that siblings are important.

You want women’s freedom, but that’s also the freedom to be let go.

PP. Maybe look at it like...you can't make people like each other by telling them they should. And tween boys are unlikely to be very interested in a girl infant. And there's a sordid backstory I'm not discussing here. A therapist doesn't help by telling people how they should feel.

The purpose of this post was to discuss when therapy didn't work. In this case, the therapist had objectives that the child did not accept. That's about as neutral as I can phrase it. No need to bring your projections about my views on feminism into this. Not my household or child.