Has your husband or boyfriend ever admitted to fantasizing about men?

[Anonymous]

Ex husband, who I had regular sex with, told me he fantasized about being with men. As openminded as I am (lots of friends who are gay/lesbian) this was a big surprise. We had been together for over 10 years, unhappily on my end.

I assume he was/is bi. Wondering how common this is amongst “straight” men.

[Anonymous]

No . Never.

[Anonymous]

Ex casual bf. He had already slept with a man but swore he wasn't gay. His nightstand told me otherwise.

[Anonymous]

He is bisexual. And PP, your boyfriend wasn't gay. He was also bisexual.

[Anonymous]

Never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ex husband, who I had regular sex with, told me he fantasized about being with men. As openminded as I am (lots of friends who are gay/lesbian) this was a big surprise. We had been together for over 10 years, unhappily on my end.

I assume he was/is bi. Wondering how common this is amongst “straight” men.

Seems I read around 10% have fantasized about it in most surveys, and around 5% experimented. Around 1-2% genuinely gay.

[Anonymous]

Only beating the crap out of other men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is bisexual. And PP, your boyfriend wasn't gay. He was also bisexual.

Or gay and in denial. that happens too.

[Anonymous]

A lot of “straight” men are on the down low. An actual straight man doesn’t fantasize about other men - that’s not how it works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only beating the crap out of other men.

[Anonymous]

No. Never. We are very open and talk about everything without judgment.

[Anonymous]

Barack Obama did so 🤷🏼‍♀️

He wrote about it to letters to his ex-gf from his Oberlin days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ex husband, who I had regular sex with, told me he fantasized about being with men. As openminded as I am (lots of friends who are gay/lesbian) this was a big surprise. We had been together for over 10 years, unhappily on my end.

I assume he was/is bi. Wondering how common this is amongst “straight” men.

Seems I read around 10% have fantasized about it in most surveys, and around 5% experimented. Around 1-2% genuinely gay.

Variety of surveys through time put the number of gay men around 5%, though of course probably higher in large cities. If you are asking about how many men have fantasized? 1 in 5 or 20%. How many men have gone through and explored? 15% seems a reasonable estimate.

How do I know? I am a bisexual man who is more into guys and the stereotypical "you would never guess" person. There are way more married down low guys than most would think.

[Anonymous]

No, and if he did it would be bye bye.

[Anonymous]

Friend and I had sex with a woman at the same time, we didn’t touch each other except for brushing arms or legs. It was 20 years ago and was the closest I ever go to bi, still top 5 in the spank bank.