Spouse Keeps List

[Anonymous]

I needed to get something off my spouse's phone and saw they had open a note with my name. Yes, I read it and not sure if I am happy I did or regret it. It was basically a list of all the things I have done over the years to make them upset or parts of my personality they do not like. Most I knew about as they have come up in arguments and I had my chance to give my perspective on what occurred and/or apologised. But it was shocking to see this list that contained such visceral reactions to situations. Of note, it seems my spouse will give pretty much anyone the benefit of the doubt except it seems me. What would you do?

[Anonymous]

Divorce
He’s keeping score, resentful and not over past arguments & disagreements.

Do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who keeps notes on things as such?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s keeping score

Yes, it must be a man because a woman would have her grievances memorized.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s keeping score

Yes, it must be a man because a woman would have her grievances memorized.

We don't need to write them down. Instant recall, baby!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s keeping score

Yes, it must be a man because a woman would have her grievances memorized.

We don't need to write them down. Instant recall, baby!

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorce
He’s keeping score, resentful and not over past arguments & disagreements.

Do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who keeps notes on things as such?

Yeah, that would end my marriage. Try counseling if you want but I’d be out of there. Why spend your life with someone like this?

[Anonymous]

How old are your children, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How old are your children, OP?

We have one 8 year old.

[Anonymous]

Tell him you found it and talk it through calmly if possible. Otherwise it becomes a secret, and it will out eventually at precisely the wrong moment.

[Anonymous]

Take a photo of the list on your phone then delete his note. Hide your photo in an email or something. He’ll be frantic!

[Anonymous]

There isn’t a phone on the market with enough memory for my wife’s list.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There isn’t a phone on the market with enough memory for my wife’s list.

Hahah are you my DH? No just kidding the list I have is for my mother in law.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There isn’t a phone on the market with enough memory for my wife’s list.

I am OP but had to laugh! I by no means think I am perfect and I have tried to work on my flaws and be a better partner. Still not perfect but have learned and grown...which is also what makes this revelation even more shocking, I think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s keeping score

Yes, it must be a man because a woman would have her grievances memorized.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Wasn't this a Friends episode? Didn't Ross keep a list?