DD is listening to some VERY inappropriate music

[Anonymous]

DD (16) let me take a look at her Spotify account the other day and what I saw made me gasp. She listens constantly to a singer called "Cupcakke" (yes, with two k's). Most of this Cupcakke character's songs seem to be about sex. That on it's own would actually be fine; "Like A Virgin" by Madonna was my favorite song when I was DD's age, I'm no prude! But this is just over the top. I can't even the names of most of these songs, that's how bad they are. Some of the less inappropriate titles are "Squidward Nose" and "Dementia". As for the lyrics...I'm not squeamish but this stuff is just insane. Look it up if you're curious, I don't feel comfortable describing specifics. It makes me uncomfortable that she's listening to this content and maybe getting some questionable messages from it. How should I discuss it with her and possibly get her to find some new tunes to listen to?

[Anonymous]

Stop funding her so she can download songs to begin with. That was your initial mistake.

My nearly 16 yo son has zero music on his phone or even access to money to download stuff. He uses cash only if he wants to hang out with friends. No access to a credit card, debit card or Apple Pay. He’s quite responsible as a result.

[Anonymous]

Just pretend that you enjoy it and start playing it in the car together. Throw in some sexxy red and 2 live crew from back in the day and sing along together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop funding her so she can download songs to begin with. That was your initial mistake.

My nearly 16 yo son has zero music on his phone or even access to money to download stuff. He uses cash only if he wants to hang out with friends. No access to a credit card, debit card or Apple Pay. He’s quite responsible as a result.

What on earth is this response?

I don’t know the artist, but it seems like she is on the “shock” side. Like Wet A.. P…. Not that big of a deal as long as your kid is even the slightest bit mature.

[Anonymous]

It is good for children to listen to explicit lyrics about degrading sex, misogyny, violence, murder, and frequent use of the N word.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just pretend that you enjoy it and start playing it in the car together. Throw in some sexxy red and 2 live crew from back in the day and sing along together.

How would that make her stop listening?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just pretend that you enjoy it and start playing it in the car together. Throw in some sexxy red and 2 live crew from back in the day and sing along together.

How would that make her stop listening?

No teenager wants to listen to the same music as their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop funding her so she can download songs to begin with. That was your initial mistake.

My nearly 16 yo son has zero music on his phone or even access to money to download stuff. He uses cash only if he wants to hang out with friends. No access to a credit card, debit card or Apple Pay. He’s quite responsible as a result.

Why wouldn't you let him listen to music? There are better ways to go about it. Children should have a debit card and be taught responsible use. Only if they abuse do you take it away and that shouldn't be permanent. Kids should have access to these so they are better prepared on how to use and how it works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No teenager wants to listen to the same music as their parents.

That's just not true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is good for children to listen to explicit lyrics about degrading sex, misogyny, violence, murder, and frequent use of the N word.

are you being satire or serious?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD (16) let me take a look at her Spotify account the other day and what I saw made me gasp. She listens constantly to a singer called "Cupcakke" (yes, with two k's). Most of this Cupcakke character's songs seem to be about sex. That on it's own would actually be fine; "Like A Virgin" by Madonna was my favorite song when I was DD's age, I'm no prude! But this is just over the top. I can't even the names of most of these songs, that's how bad they are. Some of the less inappropriate titles are "Squidward Nose" and "Dementia". As for the lyrics...I'm not squeamish but this stuff is just insane. Look it up if you're curious, I don't feel comfortable describing specifics. It makes me uncomfortable that she's listening to this content and maybe getting some questionable messages from it. How should I discuss it with her and possibly get her to find some new tunes to listen to?

As a Cupcakke fan it's not that deep and your kid will be fine. Kids should listen to they music they want to listen and not have it controlled by parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is good for children to listen to explicit lyrics about degrading sex, misogyny, violence, murder, and frequent use of the N word.

CupcakKe does not support misogyny, and her songs make this very clear. She makes music that is feminist and empowers women, and you'd know it if you listened to her instead of guessing based on some pretty messed up assumptions about rap music.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD (16) let me take a look at her Spotify account the other day and what I saw made me gasp. She listens constantly to a singer called "Cupcakke" (yes, with two k's). Most of this Cupcakke character's songs seem to be about sex. That on it's own would actually be fine; "Like A Virgin" by Madonna was my favorite song when I was DD's age, I'm no prude! But this is just over the top. I can't even the names of most of these songs, that's how bad they are. Some of the less inappropriate titles are "Squidward Nose" and "Dementia". As for the lyrics...I'm not squeamish but this stuff is just insane. Look it up if you're curious, I don't feel comfortable describing specifics. It makes me uncomfortable that she's listening to this content and maybe getting some questionable messages from it. How should I discuss it with her and possibly get her to find some new tunes to listen to?

I think you're issue with CupcakKe might be her support of the LGBTQ+ community (as shown in her song "LGBT", and others). Frankly, that's pretty homophobic. And during Pride Month!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD (16) let me take a look at her Spotify account the other day and what I saw made me gasp. She listens constantly to a singer called "Cupcakke" (yes, with two k's). Most of this Cupcakke character's songs seem to be about sex. That on it's own would actually be fine; "Like A Virgin" by Madonna was my favorite song when I was DD's age, I'm no prude! But this is just over the top. I can't even the names of most of these songs, that's how bad they are. Some of the less inappropriate titles are "Squidward Nose" and "Dementia". As for the lyrics...I'm not squeamish but this stuff is just insane. Look it up if you're curious, I don't feel comfortable describing specifics. It makes me uncomfortable that she's listening to this content and maybe getting some questionable messages from it. How should I discuss it with her and possibly get her to find some new tunes to listen to?

As a Cupcakke fan it's not that deep and your kid will be fine. Kids should listen to they music they want to listen and not have it controlled by parents.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just pretend that you enjoy it and start playing it in the car together. Throw in some sexxy red and 2 live crew from back in the day and sing along together.

How would that make her stop listening?

No teenager wants to listen to the same music as their parents.

Both of my teenagers like a lot of the music my DH and I listen to, and vice versa. We generally don’t overreact to lyrics and such, though. Sex and drugs have long been the favorite topics of pop/rock/hip hop music. Doesn’t mean they’re doing any of that. It’s just music.