Eye-opening new study on the harms of divorce

Anonymous
I thought this was interesting and insightful: a study on the economic and social impacts of divorce. For children whose parents divorce when they are young, more likely to experience teen pregnancy, jail and early death, less earning potential:

https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/baltimore/news/children-divorce-finance-economy-university-of-maryland/
Anonymous
This is not new or surprising, OP. And not all children to divorcees will suffer from their parents' divorce; or suffer more than what they would have suffered in the intact but conflict-ridden marriage.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This is not new or surprising, OP. And not all children to divorcees will suffer from their parents' divorce; or suffer more than what they would have suffered in the intact but conflict-ridden marriage.


When did I say otherwise? I said this was interesting and eye-opening. Apparently you disagree, which is fine. But I never said that the costs didn’t outweigh the benefits in every single case. I don’t know why you’re so defensive.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I thought this was interesting and insightful: a study on the economic and social impacts of divorce. For children whose parents divorce when they are young, more likely to experience teen pregnancy, jail and early death, less earning potential:

https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/baltimore/news/children-divorce-finance-economy-university-of-maryland/


And how does that compare to children whose parents stay together despite dysfunctionality and hating each other?

If they can’t make those comparisons, I am not interested in these findings.
Anonymous
Correlation not causation. It could be that the type of parents that would have kids who go to jail and gave teen pregnancies are also the type of adults who tend to divorce. Of course divorce isn’t ideal but neither is marrying the wrong person or living with domestic violence or experiencing financial and health issues that can’t be resolved or being with someone that ends up with a criminal record and on and on. I agree with the prior poster - what exactly do you think is rocket science here or new / impt enough for a thread on this?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This is not new or surprising, OP. And not all children to divorcees will suffer from their parents' divorce; or suffer more than what they would have suffered in the intact but conflict-ridden marriage.



This study shows statistical proof that a lot of children are significantly harmed by their parents divorce.

It’s the in between cases that should give you pause. The children from families that weren’t high conflict but divorced anyways are worse off. The only children who are better off after a divorce are in the very small percentage where the household
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Correlation not causation. It could be that the type of parents that would have kids who go to jail and gave teen pregnancies are also the type of adults who tend to divorce. Of course divorce isn’t ideal but neither is marrying the wrong person or living with domestic violence or experiencing financial and health issues that can’t be resolved or being with someone that ends up with a criminal record and on and on. I agree with the prior poster - what exactly do you think is rocket science here or new / impt enough for a thread on this?


I agree with this. Unfortunately there are a lot of broken people and selfish people and some of them happen to have kids and get married.
Anonymous
1) A working paper is neither published nor per reviewed.

2) Lots of kids are equally effed up or worse by dysfunctional couples who contort themselves to remain in bad marriages.

So what?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I thought this was interesting and insightful: a study on the economic and social impacts of divorce. For children whose parents divorce when they are young, more likely to experience teen pregnancy, jail and early death, less earning potential:

https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/baltimore/news/children-divorce-finance-economy-university-of-maryland/


And how does that compare to children whose parents stay together despite dysfunctionality and hating each other?

If they can’t make those comparisons, I am not interested in these findings.


They discuss that in the article
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Correlation not causation. It could be that the type of parents that would have kids who go to jail and gave teen pregnancies are also the type of adults who tend to divorce. Of course divorce isn’t ideal but neither is marrying the wrong person or living with domestic violence or experiencing financial and health issues that can’t be resolved or being with someone that ends up with a criminal record and on and on. I agree with the prior poster - what exactly do you think is rocket science here or new / impt enough for a thread on this?


OP here. I knew there were big financial and emotional repercussions, but no, I didn’t know about the earlier death statistics.
Anonymous
My 3 kids would have been better off some ways had we stayed together. However, that wasn’t an option because they would’ve had one miserable mother. We have a lot of money so it made things a lot easier. So far, no teen pregnancies.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Correlation not causation. It could be that the type of parents that would have kids who go to jail and gave teen pregnancies are also the type of adults who tend to divorce. Of course divorce isn’t ideal but neither is marrying the wrong person or living with domestic violence or experiencing financial and health issues that can’t be resolved or being with someone that ends up with a criminal record and on and on. I agree with the prior poster - what exactly do you think is rocket science here or new / impt enough for a thread on this?


I agree with this. Unfortunately there are a lot of broken people and selfish people and some of them happen to have kids and get married.


A LOT of them unfortunately have kids and get married and continue the broken way of life because that's all they ever knew. Divorce isn't the cause or final outcome, it is merely one of many life consequences.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Correlation not causation. It could be that the type of parents that would have kids who go to jail and gave teen pregnancies are also the type of adults who tend to divorce. Of course divorce isn’t ideal but neither is marrying the wrong person or living with domestic violence or experiencing financial and health issues that can’t be resolved or being with someone that ends up with a criminal record and on and on. I agree with the prior poster - what exactly do you think is rocket science here or new / impt enough for a thread on this?


This. It's pretty impossible to control for "families who have similar breakdown but stayed married".
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Correlation not causation. It could be that the type of parents that would have kids who go to jail and gave teen pregnancies are also the type of adults who tend to divorce. Of course divorce isn’t ideal but neither is marrying the wrong person or living with domestic violence or experiencing financial and health issues that can’t be resolved or being with someone that ends up with a criminal record and on and on. I agree with the prior poster - what exactly do you think is rocket science here or new / impt enough for a thread on this?


This. It's pretty impossible to control for "families who have similar breakdown but stayed married".


Some of this correlation is due to genetic transmission of behavioral tendencies. People who are more impulsive than average will be more likely to get divorced, their kids will also be more likely (on average) to get pregnant and die early because they inherited their parents genes that predispose them to more impulsive behaviors.
Anonymous
I don't know but for my kid Dad and I both remarried which makes my kid rich because the 4 of us earn millions a year.
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