Eye-opening new study on the harms of divorce

[Anonymous]

I find that marrying a quality person and being a thoughtful spouse has a 100% success rate. There are no people on either side of the family that are divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was interesting and insightful: a study on the economic and social impacts of divorce. For children whose parents divorce when they are young, more likely to experience teen pregnancy, jail and early death, less earning potential:

https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/baltimore/news/ch...versity-of-maryland/

And how does that compare to children whose parents stay together despite dysfunctionality and hating each other?

If they can’t make those comparisons, I am not interested in these findings.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was interesting and insightful: a study on the economic and social impacts of divorce. For children whose parents divorce when they are young, more likely to experience teen pregnancy, jail and early death, less earning potential:

https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/baltimore/news/ch...versity-of-maryland/

Honestly, F*** U, OP.

Are you posting this so you can congratulate yourself on being so superior to other people

I guess I don't totally fall into this age range the paper is talking about because my kid was 7, but just.... F*** U. He up and left, what was I supposed to do?

OP here. I am a child of divorce at a young age. I’m not blaming or shaming anyone. I’m married and I would say, mostly happily, but there have definitely been times I’ve thought it would be easier to divorce. I was surprised by many of the findings here and thought it was an interesting read. I’m sorry for your troubles but you do need to calm down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find that marrying a quality person and being a thoughtful spouse has a 100% success rate. There are no people on either side of the family that are divorced.

You sound smug. And like you haven’t been humbled by life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know but for my kid Dad and I both remarried which makes my kid rich because the 4 of us earn millions a year.

Which is great, but as the article points out, all parents are then statistically likely working more and/or dividing their time and attention to other spouses and other children.

If it works out, great, but there’s more than just money to think of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Correlation not causation. It could be that the type of parents that would have kids who go to jail and gave teen pregnancies are also the type of adults who tend to divorce. Of course divorce isn’t ideal but neither is marrying the wrong person or living with domestic violence or experiencing financial and health issues that can’t be resolved or being with someone that ends up with a criminal record and on and on. I agree with the prior poster - what exactly do you think is rocket science here or new / impt enough for a thread on this?

It’s a person who has too much time on their hands and is probably feeling insecure about other things in life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find that marrying a quality person and being a thoughtful spouse has a 100% success rate. There are no people on either side of the family that are divorced.

Well there's a little bit of tautology at work here. If anyone in your family had divorced, I'm sure you'd determine either they hadn't married a quality person or someone hadn't been a thoughtful spouse. But sure, "having a good marriage has a 100% success rate of having a good marriage"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find that marrying a quality person and being a thoughtful spouse has a 100% success rate. There are no people on either side of the family that are divorced.

I know so many people who made the same gloating statements and ended up divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was interesting and insightful: a study on the economic and social impacts of divorce. For children whose parents divorce when they are young, more likely to experience teen pregnancy, jail and early death, less earning potential:

https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/baltimore/news/ch...versity-of-maryland/

And how does that compare to children whose parents stay together despite dysfunctionality and hating each other?

If they can’t make those comparisons, I am not interested in these findings.

They discuss that in the article

No it doesn’t. It just says that the study can’t make comparisons to the case parents are dysfunctional and stay together.

Stop lying. Are the author and trying to drive traffic to your article?

[Anonymous]

Nobody gets divorced because it’s great.

They do it because they think it’s the better of the options they have.

You can’t study this, because there’s no way to separate the couples who stayed married instead of getting divorced from the couples who didn’t contemplate it.

[Anonymous]

Lots of defensive divorcées on this thread, huh.

[Anonymous]

The divorce rate in this country is out of control, and people take divorce way too lightly. Yes, of course there are marriages where it is absolutely better for everyone if there’s a divorce. But sorry, divorces are too common and no, kids aren’t as “resilient” as some people claim. Higher risk of early death, jail, teen pregnancy and financial harm/less economic opportunity is not “resiliency,” and people need to take divorce more seriously.

On DCUM alone, it’s always “divorce” for problems that are not insurmountable, problems that aren’t abuse or alcoholism or affairs or something truly awful.

[Anonymous]

In other news, water is wet. It shouldn’t be surprising at all that losing an income makes life harder for everyone. It wouldn’t be different if one parent dies and there is no life insurance. The financial situation would suffer for everyone left behind. Less money for housing which means moving to a less desirable neighborhood with less desirable schools and the kids that attend them.

[Anonymous]

The real issue is why people rush to marry the wrong person? That’s what hurts the kids. Your choices shape your children. It amazes me that adults willingly enter into questionable relationships so frequently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find that marrying a quality person and being a thoughtful spouse has a 100% success rate. There are no people on either side of the family that are divorced.

I know so many people who made the same gloating statements and ended up divorced.

This. How old are you, OP?