No cupcake / treat rule...

[Anonymous]

...my dc attend a public school with a "strict" no parent bringing food for any celebration, reason rule. It has recently started in my various WhatsApp groups parents seeking the group's permission to bring in cupcakes for their dc's birthday and whether there are any allergies in the classroom. This is annoying me because my dc do have allergies and I just feel like even if I trust them to buy "school safe" cupcakes, why do I need to disclose to them that my dc has allergies? It's not that I am ashamed or anything like that, it's just that this is something I want to entrust to other parents. Of course, I could say no to their request but with everyone else saying yes I don't feel comfortable being the lone dissenter. I want to reach out to our family advocate on this but I also feel like I am making a mountain out of a mole hill and to let it go. Other allergy moms, how do you feel about this?

[Anonymous]

You should tell the teacher and direct them to reach out to the teacher about the allergies of the class

[Anonymous]

Ask the teacher to hold a safe alternative treat for your child to replace anything brought in..but I am surprised the teacher is not shutting it down.

[Anonymous]

This is why the rules exist. No cupcakes. Find other ways to celebrate in school that's not food. It's not that hard, kids need less sugar and not more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask the teacher to hold a safe alternative treat for your child to replace anything brought in..but I am surprised the teacher is not shutting it down.

+1

The Heathy Schools Act cannot be overridden by unanimous consent of the parents, that’s not how it works.

[Anonymous]

I’m personally opposed to the no treats at all rules but this is wild. The parents shouldn’t be able to circumvent the rules like this and it shouldn’t fall to you to figure out how to respond.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...my dc attend a public school with a "strict" no parent bringing food for any celebration, reason rule. It has recently started in my various WhatsApp groups parents seeking the group's permission to bring in cupcakes for their dc's birthday and whether there are any allergies in the classroom. This is annoying me because my dc do have allergies and I just feel like even if I trust them to buy "school safe" cupcakes, why do I need to disclose to them that my dc has allergies? It's not that I am ashamed or anything like that, it's just that this is something I want to entrust to other parents. Of course, I could say no to their request but with everyone else saying yes I don't feel comfortable being the lone dissenter. I want to reach out to our family advocate on this but I also feel like I am making a mountain out of a mole hill and to let it go. Other allergy moms, how do you feel about this?

I don't get this - why wouldn't you want everyone to know about your child's allergies so that they could protect them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...my dc attend a public school with a "strict" no parent bringing food for any celebration, reason rule. It has recently started in my various WhatsApp groups parents seeking the group's permission to bring in cupcakes for their dc's birthday and whether there are any allergies in the classroom. This is annoying me because my dc do have allergies and I just feel like even if I trust them to buy "school safe" cupcakes, why do I need to disclose to them that my dc has allergies? It's not that I am ashamed or anything like that, it's just that this is something I want to entrust to other parents. Of course, I could say no to their request but with everyone else saying yes I don't feel comfortable being the lone dissenter. I want to reach out to our family advocate on this but I also feel like I am making a mountain out of a mole hill and to let it go. Other allergy moms, how do you feel about this?

If I were your friend I'd complain about this for you, and my kids don't have allergies. I just think these parents are being a-holes and I'd turn them in myself if I knew about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m personally opposed to the no treats at all rules but this is wild. The parents shouldn’t be able to circumvent the rules like this and it shouldn’t fall to you to figure out how to respond.

Why? I don't have kids with allergies but if I was told they couldn't bring treats in it would be fine. Why would I think bringing in treats for my kid could possibly be more important than any number of valid reasons to ban this practice?

[Anonymous]

I am not an allergy mom but I would not want to do what these parents are doing. Kids really don’t need more treats in school, allergies or not. Personally I’d be comfortable speaking up to the What’s App group. Without disclosing your kid’s allergy, you can still point out that there are a number of reasons this rule might be in place, including other medical conditions people may not want to disclose on a group text. I’ll bet that would shut it down.

You could also inform the school and ask that they reinforce the rule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m personally opposed to the no treats at all rules but this is wild. The parents shouldn’t be able to circumvent the rules like this and it shouldn’t fall to you to figure out how to respond.

Why? I don't have kids with allergies but if I was told they couldn't bring treats in it would be fine. Why would I think bringing in treats for my kid could possibly be more important than any number of valid reasons to ban this practice?

I don’t like this solution, but of course I’m fine too. I stated my personal opinion here to make the point that, even with my own feelings about this, I am totally on OP’s side here and it’s wild that the rule is being circumvented.

[Anonymous]

Tell your kid they have allergies and cant eat the treats at school. I have allergies and so do my kids. My kids know they cant partake and it's not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why the rules exist. No cupcakes. Find other ways to celebrate in school that's not food. It's not that hard, kids need less sugar and not more.

Agree. I’d be irritated because there is already a no cupcake rule. That means no cupcakes for birthday. I wish our school had to rule. The kids get so much junk. It’s always someone’s birthday or some party or another- it’s all the time.

[Anonymous]

Seriously you’re losing your mind over a cupcake? You stick an allergy friendly cupcake or other snack in your kid’s bag and call it a day. You don’t ruin the entire day for everyone else.

[Anonymous]

I cannot cannot stand parents bringing junk food to schools. It’s awful and I totally judge the parents and kids as fatties, let’s be honest, most of them are and the kids start to show weight earlier and earlier in elementary school. So I’m thrilled we have allergies as a reason to stop this madness. OP I’d love to be in a class with your kid. No, separate treats for kids with allergies is mean spirited. It’s never the same.