I keep wanting to buy dresses for nonexistent events
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Does anyone else do this? Like I keep imagining that I'm going to a summer wedding and I need a dress, and this dress would be perfect - only there is no summer wedding (at least not as yet). And I've even bought a couple of them! (They're nice - but when the heck am I going to wear them?!)
Or like I've been on the hunt for a chic little leather jacket - but I live in a hot climate, and we are already past jacket weather. Not that I never go anywhere colder - but do I need a cute leather jacket right now? I keep imagining we're on a trip to Paris in the springtime when I'd need it - but we are not going to Paris this year! This feels like some kind of obsessive thing - but also I really enjoy a nice dress. They are all secondhand (even the jackets I'm looking at) so I'm not racking up huge credit card bills over this stuff. And yet at the same time I got laid off this year and am freelancing now, so it's not like I have the MOST stable income. Like this is not the time to just be like, well what's another $100 on dresses and jackets. Anyway - does anyone else find themselves shopping for fantasy events, and why do we do this? |
Anonymous
| Yes, all the time. Because the dresses are pretty and it’s nice imagine wearing them and feeling/looking pretty too. |
Anonymous
| Buy clothing for your real life, not some unattainable fantasy. What a waste of money. |
Anonymous
It makes me so happy to imagine wearing them! I love thinking about it - I love trying the clothes on, and fantasizing about the nice places I'd wear them. I'm so glad not to be alone in this. |
Anonymous
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Kinda'
We are invited to all types of events so makes sense for me. |
Anonymous
| When I was younger and a little overweight I never had the right clothes for the right events and I always was stressed and felt inadequate. Now that I have money and I’ve also changed my body I find myself compulsive shopping too. I buy clothes for “just in case” events that’s don’t always happen. Or when they do happen I don’t even always wear the things I bought. I stick to basics in my closet for comfort and ease. But I still find myself drawn to buying new things because they look good on me finally and I can afford them finally. I get it. |
Anonymous
Another one here. I have so many dresses and rarely an occasion to wear any of them. I’ve sworn off buying them this year. |
Anonymous
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No, because I'm out of shape and no dress looks good on me. Getting in shape is my priority.
Also, I can see how $100 can became $150 within 1-2 months in the market. I'm too busy trying to make it happen, because my work sucks. It's also a rush that can't be compared to a dress or a jacket. |
Anonymous
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Yes, I do but I don't buy them. My husband is an introvert our social life is non existent so no where to go or do anything. I hope to build relationships where I can dress up and go out one day!
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Anonymous
| No, I do not purchase dressy clothes with nowhere to wear them. By the time you have an event, you either want something different or it’s out of style. |
Anonymous
| To quote my MIL: "Buy me when you see me, use me when you need me!" |
Anonymous
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I used to attend fairly formal events a few times a year, from my parents' friend circles and functions. Don't do that at all anymore and that generation is gone. Try not to buy clothes I won't be wearing and I've been pretty good about it in recent years. I was just thinking about a Christmas outfit I got years ago. It's classic but I was wondering if even "classic" is out of fashion so much that I'll look silly and clueless if I even attempt to wear it should an occasion arise.
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Anonymous
Exactly. What OP is doing is the height of over-consumption. |
Anonymous
This is OP and I like your MIL! |
Anonymous
This is OP - and truly, I do not overconsume. Our one car is 14 years old and wasn't fancy when we got it. We have mostly secondhand furniture. I don't eat meat. Most of my clothes are secondhand. I just really enjoy clothes - but I don't buy fast fashion (mostly - there's some new Madewell and Everlane in there sometimes). I am not buying polyester sh** then throwing it out - I promise. It's mostly stuff on Thredup and Poshmark that I couldn't afford new (and wouldn't buy new anyway - like I wouldn't buy a new leather jacket; secondhand I feel ok about). You will just have to believe me that I am not an overconsumer overall. But I do really like clothes. The items themselves - and also the thoughts that go along with them; the planning and dreaming and also yes the wearing. It's interesting what PP said about having been overweight and feeling like she never had good clothes, and now feeling like she finally does. My situation wasn't exactly the same but for a long long time I - for various reasons - just did not have a functional wardrobe. I'd have to go meet someone or go out for dinner or go to an event, or even go into an office, and I just did not have the right clothes to wear. And it felt awful. Caused me a lot of stress. I could probably have fixed that by just reallocating some money toward clothes - but at the time I was drowning in student loans with a low salary, and it just didn't seem feasible to do. I feel like a great pleasure of being older, and done with loans finally, is that I finally, finally am putting resources into building a wardrobe that I like and actually works for me. I hadn't put that together until I read PP's post - I wonder if that's part of this. Now I know what it feels like to have clothes I like, and that work for my life, and I want more of that. Anyway! |