DH can’t function

[Anonymous]

😳 My DH is driving me insane….literally. He managed to lose his phone yesterday at work. He works in an office setting, so I do not see how it is even possible. He also constantly forgets everything, runs back to the house to retrieve his wallet, keys, whatever. When I leave for work on my week in the office, he absolutely can’t get the kids to school on time. He can’t even get himself to work on time. I keep telling him to get his stuff ready the night before and to get up, get ready, and leave house by 5/6am. NOOO!!!!He insist on staying and helping with kids (he does not….just creates chaos. Is he in some sort of mid-life crisis man child cognitive decline? UGHH…..

[Anonymous]

When did this start? You have school-aged kids so I can't fathom this popped up yesterday. If it did, get him checked out for a brain tumor.

[Anonymous]

Why do men seem so nonfunctional?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he is hitting he undiagnosed ADD midlife wall.

[Anonymous]

So this is recent? I mean you didn't see this while dating?

[Anonymous]

Is he rich? Is he hot? Packing below? Gives good oral? Why did you marry him? I wonder about these complaints.

[Anonymous]

You mentioned “your week at the office”. With your help, I would make him handle the kids (getting them ready and out the door) with your supervision on the weeks you are in the house. Maybe he needs a checklist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: 😳 My DH is driving me insane….literally. He managed to lose his phone yesterday at work. He works in an office setting, so I do not see how it is even possible. He also constantly forgets everything, runs back to the house to retrieve his wallet, keys, whatever. When I leave for work on my week in the office, he absolutely can’t get the kids to school on time. He can’t even get himself to work on time. I keep telling him to get his stuff ready the night before and to get up, get ready, and leave house by 5/6am. NOOO!!!!He insist on staying and helping with kids (he does not….just creates chaos. Is he in some sort of mid-life crisis man child cognitive decline? UGHH…..

Get him an appointment with his PCP to figure this out. Also be kind, must be difficult for him as well, not just you. It can be adult ADHD or some other cognitive issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do men seem so nonfunctional?

They seem ADHD because women are so OCD, constantly doing performance reviews.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did this start? You have school-aged kids so I can't fathom this popped up yesterday. If it did, get him checked out for a brain tumor.

OP here. Started when kids started school….about two years ago.

[Anonymous]

Adult ADHD. partially brought on by too much tech usage.
I know a few dads who now take a small dosage of Adderall/Ritalin and it has helped tremendously

[Anonymous]

We all need to cut each other some slack. Modern day life/school/expectations have gotten out of control, especially with the huge usage of text with constant changes/updates from teachers/work/sports, etc.
I have 4 kids and we've had to institute no tech mornings, to make sure we all get out the door on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did this start? You have school-aged kids so I can't fathom this popped up yesterday. If it did, get him checked out for a brain tumor.

OP here. Started when kids started school….about two years ago.

Maybe the complexity of school vs. the simplicity of daycare was too much for him.

Either way, you can press him to get diagnosed and you can streamline your space and your routines. You don't need his agreement or help for a lot of this. Look at your calendar and make cuts to have more down time. Look at your possessions and get rid of things. Look at your routines and see what can change. You can at least simplify the things that are under your purview and that will help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We all need to cut each other some slack. Modern day life/school/expectations have gotten out of control, especially with the huge usage of text with constant changes/updates from teachers/work/sports, etc.
I have 4 kids and we've had to institute no tech mornings, to make sure we all get out the door on time.

OP here. We have no tech mornings, especially since DH lost his phone yesterday. 🤣

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's on top of the urinal?