Does your husband pester you for sex?

[Anonymous]

My husband has a very robust sex drive. I did too before I became pregnant but hormones and feeling giant had slowed it down. My husband is still very much interested and loves my pregnant body - not in a weird fetish way. He wants it all the time and is always doing extra to try to get some. It was cute at first but is turning into being annoying really quick. How normal is this and how do I keep him fulfilled but also make it clear that sex won’t happen nearly as often as he wants it?

[Anonymous]

Oh, and he’s not forceful or creepy. He respects when I say no, but he always tries to get sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has a very robust sex drive. I did too before I became pregnant but hormones and feeling giant had slowed it down. My husband is still very much interested and loves my pregnant body - not in a weird fetish way. He wants it all the time and is always doing extra to try to get some. It was cute at first but is turning into being annoying really quick. How normal is this and how do I keep him fulfilled but also make it clear that sex won’t happen nearly as often as he wants it?

It's completely normal and healthy for a healthy male to want to have as much sex as he possibly can with his perfectly healthy (although also pregnant) spouse.

It is ABNORMAL for the spouse to be offended or concerned that her husband likes to have lots of sex with her.

[Anonymous]

We both work from home. Everytime we run I to each other for a break my husband pounces. It’s great most of the time. Sometimes it stresses me out that he is like “Now!!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We both work from home. Everytime we run I to each other for a break my husband pounces. It’s great most of the time. Sometimes it stresses me out that he is like “Now!!”

How many times per day/week/month do the two of you actually have sex though?

It's not every time you take a break. That's b.s. That would be several times a day.

Right?


So, get real. Tell the truth and maybe you will get useful responses.

[Anonymous]

Tell him what the acceptable frequency is, and encourage him to take care of himself in between.
Invite him to find a friend with benefits if he's attractive enough to get one without a big time commitment that would interfere with your relationship or home life.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Trick is make it really count when you do it, so he can coast on the afterglow for a while until next time.

[Anonymous]

In our 20's and 30's DH would have definitely had sex daily if I had agreed. As it was it was probably 3-4x a week, not counting recovering from childbirth.

Now that we are 40's he's fine with 3x a week and I want every day! Oh the irony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We both work from home. Everytime we run I to each other for a break my husband pounces. It’s great most of the time. Sometimes it stresses me out that he is like “Now!!”

Tell him to send you a calendar invite for later. Accept/Tentative/Decline.

I also think you can talk to him about how you're not feeling great.

I don't think you should try to push yourself into sex you don't want to have, but if this is your first kid I would just keep in mind that it is a lot easier now than it will be the first year of your baby's life.

[Anonymous]

I used to pester him while pregnant. Once the baby started moving he was longer into it. I felt rejected.

Of course the tables turned when I was tired from getting up every night. It eventually evened itself out.

[Anonymous]

Tell him what the acceptable frequency is, and encourage him to take care of himself in between.
Invite him to find a friend with benefits if he's attractive enough to get one without a big time commitment that would interfere with your relationship or home life.

Are you for real? She’s PREGNANT!! He can deal with infrequency for a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We both work from home. Everytime we run I to each other for a break my husband pounces. It’s great most of the time. Sometimes it stresses me out that he is like “Now!!”

Tell him to send you a calendar invite for later. Accept/Tentative/Decline.

I also think you can talk to him about how you're not feeling great.

I don't think you should try to push yourself into sex you don't want to have, but if this is your first kid I would just keep in mind that it is a lot easier now than it will be the first year of your baby's life.

I’m op and that isn’t my post. I think that’s a poster from a pp about working from home.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Just bend over and get it over with…