How to get rid of crush? (Serious)

Anonymous
I have one on a coworker. His personality is unlike anything I’ve seen. He is so kind, warm and nice.

I am serious and not a troll. It is bothering me so much at this point. I just don’t want to care
Anonymous
Change jobs.
Anonymous
The way to overcome crushes is to enjoy the sensation of warm feelings you have. They will not last. Do not act on them in ways that are not allowed: touching, or being alone with him more than strictly necessary for your job. You are allowed to be happy when you see your crush, to enjoy spending time with them in public, and to look forward to seeing them the next day. It doesn't mean you don't love your own spouse and children, or want to leave, or anything of that nature - even if perhaps you fantasize sometimes of having a different life!

And then one day, feelings will lessen. That's all.
Anonymous
Are you female?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Are you female?


Yes
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:The way to overcome crushes is to enjoy the sensation of warm feelings you have. They will not last. Do not act on them in ways that are not allowed: touching, or being alone with him more than strictly necessary for your job. You are allowed to be happy when you see your crush, to enjoy spending time with them in public, and to look forward to seeing them the next day. It doesn't mean you don't love your own spouse and children, or want to leave, or anything of that nature - even if perhaps you fantasize sometimes of having a different life!

And then one day, feelings will lessen. That's all.


Thank you for this
I am single though is that worse?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:The way to overcome crushes is to enjoy the sensation of warm feelings you have. They will not last. Do not act on them in ways that are not allowed: touching, or being alone with him more than strictly necessary for your job. You are allowed to be happy when you see your crush, to enjoy spending time with them in public, and to look forward to seeing them the next day. It doesn't mean you don't love your own spouse and children, or want to leave, or anything of that nature - even if perhaps you fantasize sometimes of having a different life!

And then one day, feelings will lessen. That's all.


This is good advice.

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The way to overcome crushes is to enjoy the sensation of warm feelings you have. They will not last. Do not act on them in ways that are not allowed: touching, or being alone with him more than strictly necessary for your job. You are allowed to be happy when you see your crush, to enjoy spending time with them in public, and to look forward to seeing them the next day. It doesn't mean you don't love your own spouse and children, or want to leave, or anything of that nature - even if perhaps you fantasize sometimes of having a different life!

And then one day, feelings will lessen. That's all.


Thank you for this
I am single though is that worse?


Is he single?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The way to overcome crushes is to enjoy the sensation of warm feelings you have. They will not last. Do not act on them in ways that are not allowed: touching, or being alone with him more than strictly necessary for your job. You are allowed to be happy when you see your crush, to enjoy spending time with them in public, and to look forward to seeing them the next day. It doesn't mean you don't love your own spouse and children, or want to leave, or anything of that nature - even if perhaps you fantasize sometimes of having a different life!

And then one day, feelings will lessen. That's all.


Thank you for this
I am single though is that worse?


Is he single?


Yes
Anonymous
Feelings will not lessen doing the above.
Do not think about person. Do not fantasize. Do not spend more time than absolutely necessary. This stuff can go on for years wasting your real life.
Anonymous
Think about him doing gross stuff, like trimming his toenails and picking his nose.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The way to overcome crushes is to enjoy the sensation of warm feelings you have. They will not last. Do not act on them in ways that are not allowed: touching, or being alone with him more than strictly necessary for your job. You are allowed to be happy when you see your crush, to enjoy spending time with them in public, and to look forward to seeing them the next day. It doesn't mean you don't love your own spouse and children, or want to leave, or anything of that nature - even if perhaps you fantasize sometimes of having a different life!

And then one day, feelings will lessen. That's all.


Thank you for this
I am single though is that worse?


Is he single?


Yes


So then what's the problem? Why would you not date?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The way to overcome crushes is to enjoy the sensation of warm feelings you have. They will not last. Do not act on them in ways that are not allowed: touching, or being alone with him more than strictly necessary for your job. You are allowed to be happy when you see your crush, to enjoy spending time with them in public, and to look forward to seeing them the next day. It doesn't mean you don't love your own spouse and children, or want to leave, or anything of that nature - even if perhaps you fantasize sometimes of having a different life!

And then one day, feelings will lessen. That's all.


Thank you for this
I am single though is that worse?


Is he single?


Yes


So then what's the problem? Why would you not date?


Is it really that simple though?
I dont want to admit this
/op
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Think about him doing gross stuff, like trimming his toenails and picking his nose.


Or voting for trump
Anonymous
Troll

You’re both single but you didn’t say that up front; you made it sound like some wildly inappropriate crush.
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