Skip the wedding to keep tween company?

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Anonymous wrote:No ruder than them excluding one of your family members. [url]

False. I don’t want children at my wedding. They are too disruptive. And it costs too much.

[b]What a lucky man your imaginary husband is.

What is your problem? They made a valid point. Children aren’t invited on purpose.

If my kids aren’t welcome or family to a relatives wedding, neither am I and I’m not interested in going. This is not a young child.

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Excluding 10+ year olds is very different from excluding babies and toddlers. There's something off about adults who can't even tolerate a big kid or teen.

My sister invited my 17yo cousin to her wedding last year and he walked around with airpods in the entire time on his phone. Kids don't want to be at weddings. Why does the pro-kids at weddings crowd insist that they do?

He wasn't disturbing anyone. In fact, he was probably in the top 5% of well behaved guests because he wasn't getting drunk, hitting on people, bringing up inappropriate conversation topics. I would take 20 airpod teens over one drunk uncle.

Unless he is autistic (not a diss, my son is) a 17 year walking around with AirPods is extremely rude and maladjusted. It's not to be praised or encouraged.

Extremely maladjusted and she completely missed my point. HE DIDN'T WANT TO BE THERE. That's great that PP would rather take 20 of them over one drunk uncle, but she probably couldn't find 20 who want to be there!

I guarantee you an 11 year old girl would enjoy a wedding much more than a 17 year old boy and would behave better than many adult guests. I remember a wedding where a guest had a physical fight with her +1 bf because he was flirting with a server. And another where a "drunk uncle" type took his stripper gf as his +1. Y'all militant childfree posters need to get a reality check. A person's age does not predict their behavior.

Who cares? She wasn't invited. The end!

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Anonymous wrote:No ruder than them excluding one of your family members. [url]

False. I don’t want children at my wedding. They are too disruptive. And it costs too much.

[b]What a lucky man your imaginary husband is.

What is your problem? They made a valid point. Children aren’t invited on purpose.

If my kids aren’t welcome or family to a relatives wedding, neither am I and I’m not interested in going. This is not a young child.

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Excluding 10+ year olds is very different from excluding babies and toddlers. There's something off about adults who can't even tolerate a big kid or teen.

My sister invited my 17yo cousin to her wedding last year and he walked around with airpods in the entire time on his phone. Kids don't want to be at weddings. Why does the pro-kids at weddings crowd insist that they do?

He wasn't disturbing anyone. In fact, he was probably in the top 5% of well behaved guests because he wasn't getting drunk, hitting on people, bringing up inappropriate conversation topics. I would take 20 airpod teens over one drunk uncle.

Unless he is autistic (not a diss, my son is) a 17 year walking around with AirPods is extremely rude and maladjusted. It's not to be praised or encouraged.

Extremely maladjusted and she completely missed my point. HE DIDN'T WANT TO BE THERE. That's great that PP would rather take 20 of them over one drunk uncle, but she probably couldn't find 20 who want to be there!

I guarantee you an 11 year old girl would enjoy a wedding much more than a 17 year old boy and would behave better than many adult guests. I remember a wedding where a guest had a physical fight with her +1 bf because he was flirting with a server. And another where a "drunk uncle" type took his stripper gf as his +1. Y'all militant childfree posters need to get a reality check. A person's age does not predict their behavior.

I love how the "kids belong at weddings crowd" is like "Weddings are so inappropriate! There are drunk uncles with stripper girlfriends and trashy people fistfighting with their bf for flirting with a cocktail waitress! My kids definitely belong in THAT environment, and if you don't agree, you're a meanie militant child hater!"

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Anonymous wrote:No ruder than them excluding one of your family members. [url]

False. I don’t want children at my wedding. They are too disruptive. And it costs too much.

[b]What a lucky man your imaginary husband is.

What is your problem? They made a valid point. Children aren’t invited on purpose.

If my kids aren’t welcome or family to a relatives wedding, neither am I and I’m not interested in going. This is not a young child.

+1
Excluding 10+ year olds is very different from excluding babies and toddlers. There's something off about adults who can't even tolerate a big kid or teen.

My sister invited my 17yo cousin to her wedding last year and he walked around with airpods in the entire time on his phone. Kids don't want to be at weddings. Why does the pro-kids at weddings crowd insist that they do?

He wasn't disturbing anyone. In fact, he was probably in the top 5% of well behaved guests because he wasn't getting drunk, hitting on people, bringing up inappropriate conversation topics. I would take 20 airpod teens over one drunk uncle.

Unless he is autistic (not a diss, my son is) a 17 year walking around with AirPods is extremely rude and maladjusted. It's not to be praised or encouraged.

Extremely maladjusted and she completely missed my point. HE DIDN'T WANT TO BE THERE. That's great that PP would rather take 20 of them over one drunk uncle, but she probably couldn't find 20 who want to be there!

I guarantee you an 11 year old girl would enjoy a wedding much more than a 17 year old boy and would behave better than many adult guests. I remember a wedding where a guest had a physical fight with her +1 bf because he was flirting with a server. And another where a "drunk uncle" type took his stripper gf as his +1. Y'all militant childfree posters need to get a reality check. A person's age does not predict their behavior.

Accusing people of being "militant childfree posters" for simply saying "It doesn't matter how you feel about it, if your kid wasn't invited, she can't go" is hysterical considering the people who insist kids belong at weddings are pretty militant themselves

[Anonymous]

If parents are invited without kids included they can put on their adult person underwear and say no or say yes and get sitter or let kid stay home depending on ages.

Do such parents never go out anywhere without kids?

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Anonymous wrote:No ruder than them excluding one of your family members. [url]

False. I don’t want children at my wedding. They are too disruptive. And it costs too much.

[b]What a lucky man your imaginary husband is.

What is your problem? They made a valid point. Children aren’t invited on purpose.

If my kids aren’t welcome or family to a relatives wedding, neither am I and I’m not interested in going. This is not a young child.

+1
Excluding 10+ year olds is very different from excluding babies and toddlers. There's something off about adults who can't even tolerate a big kid or teen.

My sister invited my 17yo cousin to her wedding last year and he walked around with airpods in the entire time on his phone. Kids don't want to be at weddings. Why does the pro-kids at weddings crowd insist that they do?

He wasn't disturbing anyone. In fact, he was probably in the top 5% of well behaved guests because he wasn't getting drunk, hitting on people, bringing up inappropriate conversation topics. I would take 20 airpod teens over one drunk uncle.

Unless he is autistic (not a diss, my son is) a 17 year walking around with AirPods is extremely rude and maladjusted. It's not to be praised or encouraged.

Extremely maladjusted and she completely missed my point. HE DIDN'T WANT TO BE THERE. That's great that PP would rather take 20 of them over one drunk uncle, but she probably couldn't find 20 who want to be there!

I guarantee you an 11 year old girl would enjoy a wedding much more than a 17 year old boy and would behave better than many adult guests. I remember a wedding where a guest had a physical fight with her +1 bf because he was flirting with a server. And another where a "drunk uncle" type took his stripper gf as his +1. Y'all militant childfree posters need to get a reality check. A person's age does not predict their behavior.

Wow. You must know some really sketchy people if this is how your social circle acts at weddings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If parents are invited without kids included they can put on their adult person underwear and say no or say yes and get sitter or let kid stay home depending on ages.

Do such parents never go out anywhere without kids?

This is what I don't get. Presumably OP didn't find out a) that the wedding was childfree so dd couldn't go and b) how her daughter feels about staying home alone five minutes ago. Why not talk to the kid and make arrangements before RSVPing so the kid wasn't caught in the lurch like this. "Sally, Dad and I were invited to a wedding on February 7. Why don't you ask some friends if they'd like to make plans for that weekend so you aren't home alone, or we can hire a babysitter to stay with you for a few hours."

I almost think this was a creative writing exercise to reignite the childfree weddings vs. kids at weddings debate because OP hasn't even replied.

[Anonymous]

Well, OP? What did you and your neurotic kid decide?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Skip the wedding and spend as little time as possible at reception. Put your child first.

This is lunacy. A tween can be away from her mom for 2-3 hours.

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Anonymous wrote:No ruder than them excluding one of your family members. [url]

False. I don’t want children at my wedding. They are too disruptive. And it costs too much.

[b]What a lucky man your imaginary husband is.

What is your problem? They made a valid point. Children aren’t invited on purpose.

If my kids aren’t welcome or family to a relatives wedding, neither am I and I’m not interested in going. This is not a young child.

+1
Excluding 10+ year olds is very different from excluding babies and toddlers. There's something off about adults who can't even tolerate a big kid or teen.

There's not! It's usually a question of numbers. Most people do not invite kids to weddings. If OP had four kids, that would be four additional plates. Many of their guests probably have kids -- where do you draw the line?

I didn’t invite children to my wedding and it boggles my mind now to find out how apparently people are enraged by that. I have over 20 cousins who my parents insisted I invite, along with their spouses. About half of those also have children, none of whom I am particularly close to. The only way we could cut back enough on our guest list to invite our own friends was to come up with a firm rule about no children, which cut back about 20 cousins/children of cousins in addition to kids of coworkers etc.

I doubt any of those kids really wanted to go, maybe one or two girls would have enjoyed dressing up. Oh well.

I have a cousin who got married when she was 19 and I was 14 and I was not invited as it was "kid free", but WAS asked to come help watch the younger children for free lol. Guess which cousin I haven't spoken to in 26 years?

Do you not see how not inviting kids but demanding a kid come do you a favor for free is different from just not inviting kids?

I have 11 cousins on my dad's side, most of whom are 10-15 years older than me, so a lot of them got married when I was in hs. About half invited me and half didn't. I don't really care that I missed doing the Cupid Shuffle with a bunch of drunk 20 or 30somethings in a hotel ballroom in 2006 because I'm not a loser.

This cousin was only 5 years older though. Hilarious to have a child free wedding when you’re only a year from having been a minor yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:No ruder than them excluding one of your family members. [url]

False. I don’t want children at my wedding. They are too disruptive. And it costs too much.

[b]What a lucky man your imaginary husband is.

What is your problem? They made a valid point. Children aren’t invited on purpose.

If my kids aren’t welcome or family to a relatives wedding, neither am I and I’m not interested in going. This is not a young child.

+1
Excluding 10+ year olds is very different from excluding babies and toddlers. There's something off about adults who can't even tolerate a big kid or teen.

There's not! It's usually a question of numbers. Most people do not invite kids to weddings. If OP had four kids, that would be four additional plates. Many of their guests probably have kids -- where do you draw the line?

I didn’t invite children to my wedding and it boggles my mind now to find out how apparently people are enraged by that. I have over 20 cousins who my parents insisted I invite, along with their spouses. About half of those also have children, none of whom I am particularly close to. The only way we could cut back enough on our guest list to invite our own friends was to come up with a firm rule about no children, which cut back about 20 cousins/children of cousins in addition to kids of coworkers etc.

I doubt any of those kids really wanted to go, maybe one or two girls would have enjoyed dressing up. Oh well.

I have a cousin who got married when she was 19 and I was 14 and I was not invited as it was "kid free", but WAS asked to come help watch the younger children for free lol. Guess which cousin I haven't spoken to in 26 years?

Do you not see how not inviting kids but demanding a kid come do you a favor for free is different from just not inviting kids?

I have 11 cousins on my dad's side, most of whom are 10-15 years older than me, so a lot of them got married when I was in hs. About half invited me and half didn't. I don't really care that I missed doing the Cupid Shuffle with a bunch of drunk 20 or 30somethings in a hotel ballroom in 2006 because I'm not a loser.

This cousin was only 5 years older though. Hilarious to have a child free wedding when you’re only a year from having been a minor yourself.

Honestly I think that poster made that story up. Maybe I'm just from the south but think about the people you know who got married at 19 and how nice their weddings were.

It would be more believable if she had said her cousin was in her late 30s and a ~*~coastal elite~*~

[Anonymous]

Get a sitter and un tether the apron strings

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Your child can stay alone for this short period of time. Pick movies to watch, order a favorite dish and attend the wedding.
Don't fret about an invitation that is adult-only, either. The expectation that children should be at all events is truly bogus.

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Anonymous wrote:Skip the wedding and spend as little time as possible at reception. Put your child first.

This is lunacy. A tween can be away from her mom for 2-3 hours.

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Like is this kid still nursing or something? Why can't you go to an evening event without her?

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I don’t like leaving my tween DD alone at night for extended periods of time. I’d probably skip the wedding entirely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is SO rude. The ceremony is the important part.

Leave your kid home alone. Have her write out a schedule of what she'll do so she isn't wandering around the house aimlessly, and include her FaceTiming with Grandpa or someone, and you and DH calling between the ceremony and reception.

Write out a schedule?

May this level of neuroticism never find me