Skip the wedding to keep tween company?

[Anonymous]

Is she 9 or is she 12? That would make a difference to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop treating your 14 year old like a baby. Surely she can find something to occupy her time - she can watch a movie marathon or something.

OP said she has a tween. That's 9-12 years old. Did OP later say the kid is 14?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she 9 or is she 12? That would make a difference to me.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Skip the wedding and spend as little time as possible at reception. Put your child first.

This is lunacy. A tween can be away from her mom for 2-3 hours.

+1.

+2 You can leave the reception a little early. Or, get a babysitter.

[Anonymous]

When my DD was 10-11, if we left for an hour we would have her Facetime with grandparents. Could you arrange for her to do that every hour with grandparents/cousins? They could call her? That way she doesn't feel so alone since she'd be on the phone with them. They could even watch a show "together" while on Facetime.

[Anonymous]

Whatever you do, OP, you are fine morally. You are thoughtful in thinking this through. Do what feels comfortable and right to you and be confident in your decision. Any friend would not just understand but support your decision.

[Anonymous]

Wow, way to teach kids that the world should revolve around them.

Personally I think this is a terrible idea and reinforcing some entitlement. It also comes off really passive aggressive to the hosts, since you're trying to punish them in a sense. But you do you.

[Anonymous]

"To spend more time with her" weird!!

[Anonymous]

Get a babysitter.

[Anonymous]

Why can’t she just stay home? I have college aged kids and they would have stayed home at that age. Enough with the helicopter parenting.

[Anonymous]

Wow so many clueless rude people here!

Skipping wedding is rude - says you don’t care about the bride/groom and only want free food.

Canceling this late for this reason is rude.

Bringing an uninvited person is rude.


Doing anything other than declining without comment at the outset because you’re mad about the guest list is rude


It actually isn’t that hard to be polite, but wow!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[b]No ruder than them excluding one of your family members. [url]

False. I don’t want children at my wedding. They are too disruptive. And it costs too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whatever you do, OP, you are fine morally. You are thoughtful in thinking this through. Do what feels comfortable and right to you and be confident in your decision. Any friend would not just understand but support your decision.

Agree. I think whether you go to the ceremony and skip reception or skip ceremony and go to reception; both are fine and perfectly acceptable. You have a child to think about and people understand. I cannot imagine anyone caring at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow so many clueless rude people here!

Skipping wedding is rude - says you don’t care about the bride/groom and only want free food.

Canceling this late for this reason is rude.

Bringing an uninvited person is rude.


Doing anything other than declining without comment at the outset because you’re mad about the guest list is rude


It actually isn’t that hard to be polite, but wow!

The spouse is attending the ceremony and OP has a valid reason for not being able to make it. It’s fine- really. She isn’t going for “free food” and it imply someone would think she is is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whatever you do, OP, you are fine morally. You are thoughtful in thinking this through. Do what feels comfortable and right to you and be confident in your decision. Any friend would not just understand but support your decision.

Agree. I think whether you go to the ceremony and skip reception or skip ceremony and go to reception; both are fine and perfectly acceptable. You have a child to think about and people understand. I cannot imagine anyone caring at all

This attitude is why we have so many rude and/or snowflake kids now. How do you not know you are one, being rude to the wedding couple, and two, not doing anything to help your kid grow up to be resilient?