It's a little unusual to have that kind of relationship with multiple clients. I am a biglaw partner and communicate with my accountants a few times per year at most, and they would have no occasion to meet my kids. It's a professional relationship. |
Agree but not biglaw jobs and not biglaw partner jobs. Big law at the top and middle is about bet the company work. AI will take out a lot but someone has to run the AI. |
Biglaw Dad here. White collar defense. Global practice -- 20 plus years as partner. I agree with BigLaw mom and have done all of the stuff she has done. Are there some times I can't -- yes -- criminal trials a couple of times in another city. Travel a lot in general. But once you hit a level you can control a lot about the schedule. Not all the time but enough to make it mostly work. I have been at a couple of firms and I do not understand the partners that are not present for the kids absent some big issue. |
I'm not a BigLaw partner, but a partner at consulting firm. Comp is pretty similar to what we're talking about here (7 figures). I completely agree with this post. As you get older and more experienced you get a lot more efficient and, critically, can control or at least influence the schedule of things. Being present for your family and kids is 100% doable. |
DH is a BigLaw partner and can show up for games, performances, awards at school, whatever. That doesn’t negate all the early mornings, late nights, weekends and hours on vacation he has spent putting out some fire or another. It’s grueling and relentless and the clients don’t care - they just want it DONE. The kids are fine. I am okay but I miss him. We have a nice life. But it’s so much for him and I worry about him. |
Sure -- but that is the job. And most love it even if they say they do not. It is a thrill to walk into a room and take charge int he middle of a major mess. That's why you do the job. And the money of course. But if it is just the money it can't be done for long. |
Most do not “love it” - but it’s really hard to change jobs when law firm experience is all you have. |
New poster here — I don’t even like it, let alone love it. I only do it for the money. Period. And I’ll retire early. |
Baloney. |
| $2million, year 4, equity |
Exactly. I loved posts like this. When you call out their puffery they just double down and bullshit you more. Yeah, Biglaw partners talk to this regularly about their work schedule, he knows their kids., and he’s their friggin accountant! Lol, sure. Biglaw partners working their his asses off and busy as hell have enough time to forge close personal relationships with their accountant! Especially this accountant, lol, because he apparently has that kind of intimate relationship with more than one biglaw partner. What a complete crock of shit lol |
The parents work non stop and are checked out from parenting, hoping that somehow a nanny who makes $25/hr and speaks poor English can raise their kids well? |
Please don’t leave the antitrust division/SEC! We need you in there |
I think we moved on, but in case anyone is still curious, compensation for big 4 consulting partners sounds kind of similar, however pay does not go nearly as high. I don’t know any consulting partners making $10m. I do, however, know tons who are making $1-2m. A good chunk of that will go towards taxes, pensions, health insurance, college funds etc, so they’re not living a wildly extravagant lifestyles. Plus a lot of them are accountants, so they’re all pretty sensible when it comes to money. But they’re not poor by any standards- apart from DCUM standards, of course. It does sound like the lifestyle is much more manageable and enjoyable though. |