Kids that burned out, what were common characteristics and how to prevent?

Anonymous
Whether it was your DD or others you know, what were common characteristics or warning signs you observed for those who burned in their teenage years? Did they train too much as a U-little, not have other sports, not play for the love of the game, etc.?
Anonymous
What is the objective definition of burned out?
Anonymous
I’ve seen kids burn out in other sports and it’s usually because they’re not the ones who want it. For my kids particular activity I told him he can do it or not do it and it was up to him and he decided— in some years he took breaks and went back, but that’s Helped him figure out what he wants and when — if it’s the parents or coaches decision, it’s never going to go well
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen kids burn out in other sports and it’s usually because they’re not the ones who want it. For my kids particular activity I told him he can do it or not do it and it was up to him and he decided— in some years he took breaks and went back, but that’s Helped him figure out what he wants and when — if it’s the parents or coaches decision, it’s never going to go well


What is burn out?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen kids burn out in other sports and it’s usually because they’re not the ones who want it. For my kids particular activity I told him he can do it or not do it and it was up to him and he decided— in some years he took breaks and went back, but that’s Helped him figure out what he wants and when — if it’s the parents or coaches decision, it’s never going to go well


What is burn out?
no longer wanting to play and/or no longer wanting to play at higher levels ie taking foot off the gas a lot.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen kids burn out in other sports and it’s usually because they’re not the ones who want it. For my kids particular activity I told him he can do it or not do it and it was up to him and he decided— in some years he took breaks and went back, but that’s Helped him figure out what he wants and when — if it’s the parents or coaches decision, it’s never going to go well


What is burn out?
no longer wanting to play and/or no longer wanting to play at higher levels ie taking foot off the gas a lot.


So a HS boy getting distracted by girls and focusing on that instead of his sport is burned out?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen kids burn out in other sports and it’s usually because they’re not the ones who want it. For my kids particular activity I told him he can do it or not do it and it was up to him and he decided— in some years he took breaks and went back, but that’s Helped him figure out what he wants and when — if it’s the parents or coaches decision, it’s never going to go well


What is burn out?
no longer wanting to play and/or no longer wanting to play at higher levels ie taking foot off the gas a lot.


My nephew got burned out when he became a video gamer I guess
Anonymous
Repeated injury
Anonymous
My kid is showing some signs also. She wants to decide what extra skills clinics and extra training she participates in. Doesn’t try hard in extra training and ailments pop up, like headaches and stomach hurts.

We pulled back and let her pick the extras. She’s more motivated to join trainings w teammates now than individual sessions.

We’re u12, maybe we’ll pull back a bit more next year…. It’s hard to tell. One minute she loves it, the next day she rather not practice jiggling at all.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I’ve seen kids burn out in other sports and it’s usually because they’re not the ones who want it. For my kids particular activity I told him he can do it or not do it and it was up to him and he decided— in some years he took breaks and went back, but that’s Helped him figure out what he wants and when — if it’s the parents or coaches decision, it’s never going to go well


What is burn out?
no longer wanting to play and/or no longer wanting to play at higher levels ie taking foot off the gas a lot.


My nephew got burned out when he became a video gamer I guess


I’ve seen this too!
Anonymous
After several years of club soccer my DD chose a different sport in HS. She recently told me was glad she did because she actually likes going to practices in the new sport. In soccer she liked the games but not practicing.
Anonymous
Pressure increases as they get older and especially if they play in top leagues ...add in the fact they are teenagers and are developing their own identity. For my DS, I find it best to back off, let him chose what additional training he wants to do and also give him space to spend down time with his HS friends to participate in HS activities. This way there's less argument and tug of war. I noticed the time away from the soccer circuit helps him de-stress and he enjoys soccer more and is also more focused when he's at soccer practices and games. Not the answer for every child/player but seems to be working so far for my DS.
Anonymous
Burn out is what happens when you are doing something more than you enjoy doing it. It becomes a grind, a chore, that isn’t worth it to you anymore. It’s individual. It doesn’t mean you were pushed too hard. It means you don’t love it enough and should focus on other things that bring more enjoyment and personal reward. This is not a failure but finding your own path. If you have to ask how to prevent your kid from burning out doing what they like you are asking the wrong question. Young people should have the freedom to explore lots of activities to choose their own path. It is their path to find not yours.
Anonymous
"Sport burnout, also known as overtraining syndrome, is a condition where an athlete experiences declining performance and fatigue despite training more or continuing to train. It can be caused by a number of factors, including: overtraining, lack of proper recovery, illness, and injury"
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Burn out is what happens when you are doing something more than you enjoy doing it. It becomes a grind, a chore, that isn’t worth it to you anymore. It’s individual. It doesn’t mean you were pushed too hard. It means you don’t love it enough and should focus on other things that bring more enjoyment and personal reward. This is not a failure but finding your own path. If you have to ask how to prevent your kid from burning out doing what they like you are asking the wrong question. Young people should have the freedom to explore lots of activities to choose their own path. It is their path to find not yours.


Seems people are attributing a lot of lost of interest symptoms to sports burnout as a lazy easy diagnosis
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