Sadness When They Move Out

[Anonymous]

My 24 year-old son will slowly be moving out over the next few months. I'm so proud of him; he's got a fantastic job, a wonderful fiancee, and just bought a house an hour away. I'm just so sad because I will miss him terribly. I'm happy I was able to spend so much time with him and that he's doing so well, but my heart's broken and I just want to cry.

Anyway, I felt the same way when my oldest left and eventually got over it, so I'm sure I will this time, too. Until then, I'm just going to be really sad.

Thanks for listening. If anyone has any helpful strategies aside from staying busy, which I plan to do, I'm open to suggestions. Please be kind.

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Don't you want him to be a strong adult?

How about you keep that in mind. Be a role model for responsible, mature, adult decision making.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't you want him to be a strong adult?

How about you keep that in mind. Be a role model for responsible, mature, adult decision making.

She said she was happy for him and proud of him. That doesn't mean separately she is sad that he's moving out. Two things can be true at the same time. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't you want him to be a strong adult?

How about you keep that in mind. Be a role model for responsible, mature, adult decision making.

OP here-yes, he already IS a strong adult. I'm not sure where you get the idea that I'm not or haven't been a role model for responsible, mature, adult decision making just because I'm going to miss him when he moves out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't you want him to be a strong adult?

How about you keep that in mind. Be a role model for responsible, mature, adult decision making.

PP here: you’re a jerk. Seriously, wtf is wrong with you? Of course it’s sad, OP, people who pretend it isn’t have no heart. Partings are always sad when you are close to someone. But it sounds like you did a great job, and of course there will be many good times still to come.

[Anonymous]

It’s totally natural. And it will get better with time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't you want him to be a strong adult?

How about you keep that in mind. Be a role model for responsible, mature, adult decision making.

That was your knee-jerk reaction? Hostility? Geez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't you want him to be a strong adult?

How about you keep that in mind. Be a role model for responsible, mature, adult decision making.

She said she was happy for him and proud of him. That doesn't mean separately she is sad that he's moving out. Two things can be true at the same time. Get over yourself.

Thank you for understanding from OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't you want him to be a strong adult?

How about you keep that in mind. Be a role model for responsible, mature, adult decision making.

PP here: you’re a jerk. Seriously, wtf is wrong with you? Of course it’s sad, OP, people who pretend it isn’t have no heart. Partings are always sad when you are close to someone. But it sounds like you did a great job, and of course there will be many good times still to come.

Thank you; I appreciate your kindness and encouragement-from OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s totally natural. And it will get better with time.

Thank you-from OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't you want him to be a strong adult?

How about you keep that in mind. Be a role model for responsible, mature, adult decision making.

That was your knee-jerk reaction? Hostility? Geez.

Thank you-from OP

[Anonymous]

Ignore the resident trolls, OP.

I have one much younger left at home, and like you, the move out transitions for my older kids were bittersweet. Of course you grieve the loss as you also look forward to the future and are happy for your son. It’s completely natural. We often tear up at first steps. We want our babies to walk, we’re thankful and excited, but also there’s a twinge of sadness knowing that babyhood is over.

I think keeping busy is great, but let yourself cry and feel sad as you need to. It’s a process. Giving yourself permission to grieve will free you from the cycle of repressing the sadness and it bubbling up again.

[Anonymous]

Make sure you cry in private. I have an emotionally unregulated mother and it's always been awkward and cringey. This has pushed me away. It's fine to be sad though, we all are at important junctures in life. Just be happy and cheerful in front of him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure you cry in private. I have an emotionally unregulated mother and it's always been awkward and cringey. This has pushed me away. It's fine to be sad though, we all are at important junctures in life. Just be happy and cheerful in front of him.

You push away your mother who is sad you left home? Really? I swear I do t understand how some of you have any family left.

[Anonymous]

Its joy and sadness. Mine moved all the way to the West Coast. But she is really happy. Has a great job. Nice BF. Good social life. At least she calls..