Distraught about college son who’s happy about Trump

[Anonymous]

We are solid Democrats with progressive values. Upper middle class white family. Distraught and embarrassed that our college-age son is now a Republican. Too ashamed to tell people we know in real life. Heartsick that we raised a child who is happy about Trump being elected. He says a big reason is campus DEI and wokeness, which he feels has gone too far. Anyone else in this situation? How are you handling it? Any advice?

[Anonymous]

I think that you should embrace diversity and get over it. Your children are individuals and they are allowed to have different opinions.

[Anonymous]

Why would you have to tell anyone? Process your feelings and give it time.

[Anonymous]

Your son’s political preferences could revolve over time as he goes through different life experiences. This is part of the process of becoming an adult and thinking for oneself.

[Anonymous]

I’d be shocked and dismayed. Is it his roommate? Did something happen to make him this way in recent months?

[Anonymous]

He's rebelling. The more you react the more oxygen you give it. And even if you hate his views, he's an adult now and gets to make his own choices.

I have a friend who has a son who has dabbled in Trump appreciation who also is using drugs and getting arrested. Be glad it's not worse.

[Anonymous]

Instead of being distraught you should recognize that DEI and wokeness are toxic to many people, especially white men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are solid Democrats with progressive values. Upper middle class white family. Distraught and embarrassed that our college-age son is now a Republican. Too ashamed to tell people we know in real life. Heartsick that we raised a child who is happy about Trump being elected. He says a big reason is campus DEI and wokeness, which he feels has gone too far. Anyone else in this situation? How are you handling it? Any advice?

Let your son go and be the man he’s meant to be and stop trying to control him. He’s not wrong btw but I know I’m not going to convince you otherwise- just as he won’t either. The fact that your embarrassed says more about you and your insecurities- give people more credit. I have friends and family on the left and right and we all manage to still love each other. I dot know why with the left it’s got to be such black and white thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Instead of being distraught you should recognize that DEI and wokeness are toxic to many people, especially white men.

So toxic to have a white man cabinet full of billionaires!

[Anonymous]

My family has Trump supporters on both sides for different reasons. We are all entitled. We do not discuss politics. Obviously the Trump supporters are a large group.

[Anonymous]

Read OP. Did he go to a private or public HS? Is he going to college in the south? Frat? Do you live in VA?

[Anonymous]

Posts like these just feel like trolling.

[Anonymous]

OP here - he went to a private high school. We’re not in Virginia, his college is not in the south, he’s not in a fraternity, and this is completely unrelated to his roommate.

[Anonymous]

OP again - not a troll. Just a sad mom struggling to reconcile the way we raised our son with the political direction he’s taken.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I feel sorry for your son that he has such close minded parents, and that you judge their own son and are even embarrassed by him based on political ideology. This exemplifies how pathetic things have become. If this isn't a troll, you need to think seriously about how you are living your life.