I know it's mean, but i am kind of over people saying 'to x's point'

[Anonymous]

It's just been a long time of people saying it and it's.... annoying.
anyone else feel this way?

[Anonymous]

Hahah. I was thinking of posting this today.
This phrase is so annoying and overused

“to your point”

Can’t stand it. Along with “the narrative” and “rhetoric”. Sick of these words and phrases.

[Anonymous]

Sorry you don't like English.

[Anonymous]

Referring to someone else's point already made in conversation, and adding your thoughts to advance the conversation, is certainly better than repeating what's already been said and making a conversation tedious.

I guess I don't see the problem with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Referring to someone else's point already made in conversation, and adding your thoughts to advance the conversation, is certainly better than repeating what's already been said and making a conversation tedious.

I guess I don't see the problem with it.

Some people use it to suggest that they’re on X’s “team.” Stand on your own feet.

[Anonymous]

It's acknowledging that someone else made the point and now you are expanding on it. If you pretend it's all your own idea, you may be stealing credit from that person (or they may feel that way). It's also a useful conversational signal that you are bringing things back around to a topic that wasn't under immediate discussion.

Sometimes phrases are common because they work. It's not a trend, it's communication.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Referring to someone else's point already made in conversation, and adding your thoughts to advance the conversation, is certainly better than repeating what's already been said and making a conversation tedious.

I guess I don't see the problem with it.

Some people use it to suggest that they’re on X’s “team.” Stand on your own feet.

Wrong- I'm senior and I use it to mentor and uplift people on my team.

[Anonymous]

I use it sometimes to try to bring some attention to people who otherwise may not have been heard (like women). And to amplify good points. As a leader I think it is helpful to encourage people to speak up. But maybe I'm wrong about that.

[Anonymous]

Np, and my male coworker says this to me at least twice a day. The crazy part is he never repeats my point back accurately, which tells me that he's not listening

[Anonymous]

I never hear people say this. I think when people work together for a long time, maybe they repeat each other's tic phrases. And then people like you get all annoyed about it.

[Anonymous]

I find this a very effective way to connect with my clients. I’m an attorney, and I spend a lot of my day on client calls. I have to spend most of these calls talking and having people listen to me, so it’s a fine balance of giving clients the answers they want but also using these calls to communicate signals to clients to that they connect with you. Saying things like “to your point” “really great question” and “I completely agree with X” even if you don’t think their point was particularly important. You say things like this and you make everyone else on the call your advocate. Clients want attorneys who not only provide good advice but also, potentially more importantly, they want to be friends with their counsel. When I was a younger attorney, I would hear partners use these signals to clients and think it was masterful. I’ve tried to replicate these techniques as I’ve gotten more senior, because I think it makes clients really like me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Referring to someone else's point already made in conversation, and adding your thoughts to advance the conversation, is certainly better than repeating what's already been said and making a conversation tedious.

I guess I don't see the problem with it.

Some people use it to suggest that they’re on X’s “team.” Stand on your own feet.

It is much better than taking or building on someone's point without acknowledging it.

[Anonymous]

The even more egregious version of this phrase that my boss says all the time is “said another way”. No, the way I said it was the way I wanted it said. I don’t need to translate or restate things for me— I speak English.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The even more egregious version of this phrase that my boss says all the time is “said another way”. No, the way I said it was the way I wanted it said. I don’t need to translate or restate things for me— I speak English.

Maybe your boss was trying to rephrase your point more clearly, or to bring in other relevant context. Maybe the way _you_ want it said isn’t the best way to communicate the idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The even more egregious version of this phrase that my boss says all the time is “said another way”. No, the way I said it was the way I wanted it said. I don’t need to translate or restate things for me— I speak English.

No, that's just rude. "To x's point" isn't the same thing at all.