Don't redshirt-- having 18 year old seniors at home is PAINFUL

[Anonymous]

I have twins who missed the cut-off (Sept 1st) in our district by about 10 days and now turned 18 a few weeks into senior year.
They were also 6 weeks premature so at the time (age 4 when they started PK) we thrilled for the "gift of time."

Let me tell you. Having two 18 year olds under our roof and under our rules is PAINFUL. We are very chill parents and they are good kids: strong students, etc (in fact they just applied to top20 schools--fingers crossed) but it's clear that they could be thriving in college right now and are 100% ready for more independence. We butt heads A LOT.
Nothing was an issue until the last month or so---17 was great but now they're legal adults. They want to be in the next stage of life. And yet here they are living under our roof and having to complete another 7 months of high school and 9 months of living with mom and dad.

Just another perspective on the entire redshirting debate. Being 18 for an entire year of high school is HARD.

[Anonymous]

That’s sad to hear. It’s been great in our house for our 2 “just missed cut” off boys.

[Anonymous]

You didn't really have a choice so.....

[Anonymous]

I’ll have one kid who turns 18 and leaves within weeks and one kid who will turn 18 and be home for the next 9 months.

It just is what it is! Your kids are struggling with this time. But it’s temporary. You just gotta get through it with some humor and grace.

[Anonymous]

Not all kids are like this. One of mine turned 18 a few weeks after senior year started. We had no issues.

[Anonymous]

Yup, that's why we sent our September kid at 5, not 6.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll have one kid who turns 18 and leaves within weeks and one kid who will turn 18 and be home for the next 9 months.

It just is what it is! Your kids are struggling with this time. But it’s temporary. You just gotta get through it with some humor and grace.

Why would you do this to your kids and have them struggle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have twins who missed the cut-off (Sept 1st) in our district by about 10 days and now turned 18 a few weeks into senior year.
They were also 6 weeks premature so at the time (age 4 when they started PK) we thrilled for the "gift of time."

Let me tell you. Having two 18 year olds under our roof and under our rules is PAINFUL. We are very chill parents and they are good kids: strong students, etc (in fact they just applied to top20 schools--fingers crossed) but it's clear that they could be thriving in college right now and are 100% ready for more independence. We butt heads A LOT.
Nothing was an issue until the last month or so---17 was great but now they're legal adults. They want to be in the next stage of life. And yet here they are living under our roof and having to complete another 7 months of high school and 9 months of living with mom and dad.

Just another perspective on the entire redshirting debate. Being 18 for an entire year of high school is HARD.

Going to college at 19 means an extra year they're legally allowed to drink while away at school. It's one thing to drink illegally once in a while at parties but being able to go to bars and drink whenever they want, and buying beer for everyone else, is not a good idea for many kids, especially since they should be attending classes and doing work. I've seen more than a few kids become alcoholics who got kicked out for poor grades.

[Anonymous]

So get them an apartment and a pack of vapes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have twins who missed the cut-off (Sept 1st) in our district by about 10 days and now turned 18 a few weeks into senior year.
They were also 6 weeks premature so at the time (age 4 when they started PK) we thrilled for the "gift of time."

Let me tell you. Having two 18 year olds under our roof and under our rules is PAINFUL. We are very chill parents and they are good kids: strong students, etc (in fact they just applied to top20 schools--fingers crossed) but it's clear that they could be thriving in college right now and are 100% ready for more independence. We butt heads A LOT.
Nothing was an issue until the last month or so---17 was great but now they're legal adults. They want to be in the next stage of life. And yet here they are living under our roof and having to complete another 7 months of high school and 9 months of living with mom and dad.

Just another perspective on the entire redshirting debate. Being 18 for an entire year of high school is HARD.

Literally every high school senior feels this way. I felt that way and I was youngest in grade.

[Anonymous]

You do realize that “on time” Seniors are also 18, right?

[Anonymous]

I think it is hard because they got their ED apps in and see the end is in sight. I have a younger senior acting the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have twins who missed the cut-off (Sept 1st) in our district by about 10 days and now turned 18 a few weeks into senior year.
They were also 6 weeks premature so at the time (age 4 when they started PK) we thrilled for the "gift of time."

Let me tell you. Having two 18 year olds under our roof and under our rules is PAINFUL. We are very chill parents and they are good kids: strong students, etc (in fact they just applied to top20 schools--fingers crossed) but it's clear that they could be thriving in college right now and are 100% ready for more independence. We butt heads A LOT.
Nothing was an issue until the last month or so---17 was great but now they're legal adults. They want to be in the next stage of life. And yet here they are living under our roof and having to complete another 7 months of high school and 9 months of living with mom and dad.

Just another perspective on the entire redshirting debate. Being 18 for an entire year of high school is HARD.

Going to college at 19 means an extra year they're legally allowed to drink while away at school. It's one thing to drink illegally once in a while at parties but being able to go to bars and drink whenever they want, and buying beer for everyone else, is not a good idea for many kids, especially since they should be attending classes and doing work. I've seen more than a few kids become alcoholics who got kicked out for poor grades.

I'm anti red shirting for many reasons, but don't recall it ever being a huge challenge for determined kids to find alcohol on campus.

[Anonymous]

it has nothing to do with holding them back. It has to do with the stage of life they're in. They finished applications and are now ready to move on to the next stage of their lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:it has nothing to do with holding them back. It has to do with the stage of life they're in. They finished applications and are now ready to move on to the next stage of their lives.

They cannot move on. They are stuck in hs.