Why do grown women need to call each other ‘bestie’ or ‘bff’?

[Anonymous]

It is so cringe

[Anonymous]

because it’s not the deep? why do you care?

[Anonymous]

It’s no more “cringe” than using the word “cringe,” or policing what other women say. Get a life and you won’t hyperfocus on others.

[Anonymous]

Immature

[Anonymous]

I never hear people say this. When/where are you encountering this?

[Anonymous]

I use it ironically. I use a lot of words ironically to signal that I'm in on the joke.

[Anonymous]

B/c we've been besties since we were 10. That will never change. Boo on you for hating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s no more “cringe” than using the word “cringe,” or policing what other women say. Get a life and you won’t hyperfocus on others.

Often these grown women use it incorrectly.
-said a teen who has heard it used "too much" by "old"people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s no more “cringe” than using the word “cringe,” or policing what other women say. Get a life and you won’t hyperfocus on others.

Often these grown women use it incorrectly.
-said a teen who has heard it used "too much" by "old"people

Teens are always embarrassed by how their parents talk, who cares?

[Anonymous]

OP, I would look more at why this triggers you than why other people use a term of endearment for someone they care about.

[Anonymous]

it is. Most women I see doing this are alcoholic women that still act like they're 15.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't bother me when adult women do this but I do think the desire of many girls and women to have a "best" friend is interesting. I've never had a best friend but I've always had plenty of friends and am social and people seem to like me. I've never really understood why people seek the exclusivity of a "bestie" in friendship.

Especially now that I'm in my 40s with a husband and a child. There are already so many exclusive relationships due to marriage and family -- my relationship with my DH and DC are special and singular. But that makes me want a best friend even less -- I like how expansive and inclusive my friendships can be. It's a more flexible relationship that can shift and adapt in ways that a marriage or parent-child relationship can't and that's a nice counterbalance (I love my family a lot, don't get me wrong!).

[Anonymous]

How do you refer to your platonic same sex friend that you’ve known for over 40 yrs? The person that has been next to you for all of your crazy escapades in HS and college. The person who you talk to multiple times a day about the minutia of life. The person that your children call when they can’t find you to talk to. The person that has been there for your wedding, divorce, parents deaths. The person that reminds you of why you got divorced and has the guts to tell you that the new person you’re dating is similar.

That’s my BFF. She is so much more than a friend.

[Anonymous]

I know nothing about bestie, but BFF was coined by GenX, and we are old, so, it is a natural term for our age group.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It doesn't bother me when adult women do this but I do think the desire of many girls and women to have a "best" friend is interesting. I've never had a best friend but I've always had plenty of friends and am social and people seem to like me. I've never really understood why people seek the exclusivity of a "bestie" in friendship.

Especially now that I'm in my 40s with a husband and a child. There are already so many exclusive relationships due to marriage and family -- my relationship with my DH and DC are special and singular. But that makes me want a best friend even less -- I like how expansive and inclusive my friendships can be. It's a more flexible relationship that can shift and adapt in ways that a marriage or parent-child relationship can't and that's a nice counterbalance (I love my family a lot, don't get me wrong!).

I'm the opposite. I don't have the mental energy in my 40s to have 20 aquaninstences who don't know me deeply. I prefer my small best friend group to get in deep with.