Why do grown women need to call each other ‘bestie’ or ‘bff’?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:B/c we've been besties since we were 10. That will never change. Boo on you for hating.

+1

I have my bff and I have my squad. They and my littles are my everything.

Do you work? Have a husband? Are any of your friendships with a person who is not your same age and socioeconomic background? Do you have any male friends? Are any of your friends LGBTQ? I'm curious because I've noticed that people who use this kind of language and are very into these sorts of female friendships tend to have very narrow social groups.

I would never have this attitude because my friends don't all mesh together in this cohesive group where we have a "squad." They know each other and get along and can have fun together at a gathering. But most of them also have other friends who aren't necessarily part of my circle of close friends. Everyone has their own families and careers and priorities and they can be wildly different so it would not be possible for everyone to get all their social needs met by the same group. And because there are a range of ages, people are in different places in life -- I'm mid-40s and some of my friends are early 50s and others are mid- to late 30s and they just have wildly different friendship needs.

So the concept of a bestie and a squad is just weird to me. It would not map onto my life at all and implies a level of homogeneity that I haven't had in my friendships since maybe high school? Even then I had some friends who were above and below me in school and like when I was a senior, my two good friends who had already graduated were not spending 100% of their time hanging out with me and my friends who were juniors but we were still close and I'm still friends with several of those women now. The friendships are based on mutual affection but not on "the group" or the idea that we are closer to each other than to others ("besties"). It's just all very foreign to me. I see it in movies and TV shows but have never really experienced something like that in real life.

DP. Holy self-absorption! You inferred all that from pp's two sentence response? Please turn off the screens and get to know real people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is so cringe

Those aren’t the “B” word I hear most women apply to other women.

[Anonymous]

Grown women calling their friend group a “squad” is just about the cringiest thing I’ve ever heard.

[Anonymous]

For those of you who don’t like the word “cringe” how about “desperate need to appear young, relatable and part of the “in” crowd”.
You know the same “pick me” types from high school. That’s what “squad” makes me think of. Desperation. You can call yourself whatever you want, just know it doesn’t have the effect you think it does. “Squad” is cute for a group of tweens not middle aged women trying to stay relevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those of you who don’t like the word “cringe” how about “desperate need to appear young, relatable and part of the “in” crowd”.
You know the same “pick me” types from high school. That’s what “squad” makes me think of. Desperation. You can call yourself whatever you want, just know it doesn’t have the effect you think it does. “Squad” is cute for a group of tweens not middle aged women trying to stay relevant.

Stop trying to control other women's speech.

[Anonymous]

In addition to that, “cringe” needs to go.

[Anonymous]

We do it as a joke. We also have been friends since 1978.

[Anonymous]

Are they calling you that?