LGBTQI youth after election

[Anonymous]

My mid-twenties lesbian daughter is heartbroken by the election (as am I). Obviously, I support her 100%, but I can’t lie and say things are going to be fine for LGBTQI of any age. It’s not going to make her feel better to know that other segments of the population will suffer also. She grew up after Obergefell and had a vision of her life as a normal one - being able to be public about having a girlfriend, maybe getting married or having kids one day. Now that seems like it will disappear. This election she has already experienced harassment from men based on her sexuality. It seems like they are emboldened.

What are you saying to your kids? How are you supporting them. What are you able to offer them as hopeful in their future? How are people going to fight to protect them, especially if Trump ends up with all 3 branches? How do we protect them against that power?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mid-twenties lesbian daughter is heartbroken by the election (as am I). Obviously, I support her 100%, but I can’t lie and say things are going to be fine for LGBTQI of any age. It’s not going to make her feel better to know that other segments of the population will suffer also. She grew up after Obergefell and had a vision of her life as a normal one - being able to be public about having a girlfriend, maybe getting married or having kids one day. Now that seems like it will disappear. This election she has already experienced harassment from men based on her sexuality. It seems like they are emboldened.

What are you saying to your kids? How are you supporting them. What are you able to offer them as hopeful in their future? How are people going to fight to protect them, especially if Trump ends up with all 3 branches? How do we protect them against that power?

They might have to be a little more careful about what geographical location they choose to live in, but isn’t that already true? Not sure why those possibilities would disappear now.

[Anonymous]

It seems like the right has accepted LGB and now has TQ+ in the crosshairs. I imagine a (somewhat) gender conforming lesbian in a big city will be fine.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am with you. I am worried for our lesbian 20-something daughter and her friends as well. Those saying it won't be too bad are the same misogynist incels who voted for the demented rapist to be the next President. If it weren't for my elderly parents who need my support and care we would get the eff out of the US

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems like the right has accepted LGB and now has TQ+ in the crosshairs. I imagine a (somewhat) gender conforming lesbian in a big city will be fine.

I agree. It's why I'm so thankful that my trans niece is fully 'passing' and no one at school knows she's trans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems like the right has accepted LGB and now has TQ+ in the crosshairs. I imagine a (somewhat) gender conforming lesbian in a big city will be fine.

No, they haven't "accepted" it. This is the evangelistic Christians.

[Bartlebythescrivener]

What do you think is going to happen to her. I'm liberal, but have many conservative friends and associates. None of them talk about trans issues, much less harass them. I've honestly never even heard of anyone who is trans, much less a normal lesbian being messed with in any way. This reminds me of looney conservatives thinking Obama was going to take their guns and bible.

[Anonymous]

Bartlebythescrivener wrote:What do you think is going to happen to her. I'm liberal, but have many conservative friends and associates. None of them talk about trans issues, much less harass them. I've honestly never even heard of anyone who is trans, much less a normal lesbian being messed with in any way. This reminds me of looney conservatives thinking Obama was going to take their guns and bible.

She's probably worried about her daughter being physically or verbally assaulted. Some men believe in "corrective rape". Conservatives ran a very anti-LGBT campaign.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Bartlebythescrivener wrote:What do you think is going to happen to her. I'm liberal, but have many conservative friends and associates. None of them talk about trans issues, much less harass them. I've honestly never even heard of anyone who is trans, much less a normal lesbian being messed with in any way. This reminds me of looney conservatives thinking Obama was going to take their guns and bible.

She's probably worried about her daughter being physically or verbally assaulted. Some men believe in "corrective rape". Conservatives ran a very anti-LGBT campaign.

Enough with the hysteria . Most people including Republicans don't care who you have sex with. Do you really think some guy in a MAGA hat is going to rape your daughter because they believe in "corrective rape"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Bartlebythescrivener wrote:What do you think is going to happen to her. I'm liberal, but have many conservative friends and associates. None of them talk about trans issues, much less harass them. I've honestly never even heard of anyone who is trans, much less a normal lesbian being messed with in any way. This reminds me of looney conservatives thinking Obama was going to take their guns and bible.

She's probably worried about her daughter being physically or verbally assaulted. Some men believe in "corrective rape". Conservatives ran a very anti-LGBT campaign.

Enough with the hysteria . Most people including Republicans don't care who you have sex with. Do you really think some guy in a MAGA hat is going to rape your daughter because they believe in "corrective rape"?

Most people absolutely do care. Even in the most left leaning areas you get right wing a-holes being bigots to queer people. If you aren’t queer how would you know?

[Anonymous]

I cannot believe the gaslighting on this thread.

My kids have trans and nonbinary friends, and they have been harassed throughout Trump's terms and campaign. They are afraid because they have experienced this. They watched the exit interviews where Trump voters said transgender issues, acknowledging their existence in classrooms, etc. was THE reason they voted for Trump. These people exist, even if they aren't "your conservative friends."

So if you are who you say you are and are supportive, then please step up and fight against the people in your camp who very clearly and loudly do not support the LGBTQIA+ community. Don't just stick your head in the sand and pretend there isn't a risk here.

[Anonymous]

Bartlebythescrivener wrote:What do you think is going to happen to her. I'm liberal, but have many conservative friends and associates. None of them talk about trans issues, much less harass them. I've honestly never even heard of anyone who is trans, much less a normal lesbian being messed with in any way. This reminds me of looney conservatives thinking Obama was going to take their guns and bible.

I urge you to watch the documentary "Will and Harper" about the Saturday Night Live writer.

[Anonymous]

I'd give her the same advice I give any queer person in America right now; if it is safe for you to own a gun, buy one and learn to use it.

[Anonymous]

I appeal to people of both sides to cease fire with the fear mongering and name calling.

OP, this is not a lesbian or trans issue. This is a parenting issue, despite your daughter being a grown adult. Life happens, not everything goes your way and your daughter is looking for some direction from you. Separate the hate from the politics. There are hateful people on both sides, regardless of who is President. It is NOT because of politics.

What should you say to your daughter? You are young. That is a HUGE asset that we old people don't have. Live your life! This too shall pass! Be the change that you want to see!

There are so many ways to give young people hope. I can only hope that you find some too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I appeal to people of both sides to cease fire with the fear mongering and name calling.

OP, this is not a lesbian or trans issue. This is a parenting issue, despite your daughter being a grown adult. Life happens, not everything goes your way and your daughter is looking for some direction from you. Separate the hate from the politics. There are hateful people on both sides, regardless of who is President. It is NOT because of politics.

What should you say to your daughter? You are young. That is a HUGE asset that we old people don't have. Live your life! This too shall pass! Be the change that you want to see!

There are so many ways to give young people hope. I can only hope that you find some too!

I agree with the message of hope and action and resilience.

I disagree that this isn't political or an LGBTQI+ issue. The Trump campaign did make trans rights political. They absolutely ran on it. So stop lying. That fact that they campaigned by villainizing humans and denying their rights, and won, makes those humans afraid.