I’m ugly
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Anonymous
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I realized today that I’m post prime and just ugly now. I hate my face. I hate taking pictures because I generally just dismayed with my face. I am fit and dress well. So there’s just nothing I can do.
Rant over. |
Anonymous
| This is hard for me to write, but my mom has been gone 8 years now. Her looks were rough, but she was remembered by all as an elegant woman. I think it’s how she made herself up very simply with little makeup and wore rational clothes beautifully (she did not have nice western clothes) . But she had thin hair that was frizzy, a big mole, dark circles that were actual hyperpigmentation, and not hood teeth (she smiled without showing them). I loved my mom more than anyone, and to me she was beautiful, I loved her soft and large tummy, how she smelled of soap, and how her tiny ponytail curled in a spiral like a pig’s tail. She had a beautiful voice and loved her grandchildren, and was the best cook ever. |
Anonymous
| A smile goes a very long way to make any face pretty! |
Anonymous
| All to say, there are so many more dimensions to beauty than just looks. You can even do a lot with fashion, but also consider your voice, your graciousness, your warmth and what you give to others. |
Anonymous
| OP, it was hard to read your post. I hate that you feel this way. Are you in therapy? I'm not one to suggest therapy for every little thing (even though I'm a therapist, I don't think therapy is always called for), but I actually think it could be helpful with this. |
Anonymous
| OP I've been ugly all my life objectively (asymmetrical face, unfeminine features) but I don't think anyone would describe me that way. If you are fit and wear nice clothes you probably look much better than most women your age. Get a nice hairstyle and think of what you have to offer others! |
Anonymous
Please don't say this. Nobody should be told to smile. |
Anonymous
| I’m sorry that you feel this way. It’s hard to hear, and I don’t even know you! But is there anything that makes you feel good about yourself? Like a long shower with nice-smelling bath products, or new pajamas or perfume? Start there. I’m sure you wouldn’t speak (or think) that way about a friend of yours, so be kind to yourself. |
Anonymous
| Good makeup and hair can do wonders. If you have bad skin, go see a derm. |
Anonymous
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It's a good thing your self-worth isn't completely in the hands of how you look then, right?
At some point we all peak and then age. It's ok. Aging is a gift. Have you ever lost someone well before their time? Do you think their advice to from the beyond would be to worry about your face more? |
Anonymous
| Be kind to yourself. Get together with your friends because that helps. You’re not the only one that feels like this. You are in a new phase of life where accessories and confidence goes a long way. When you feel up to it maybe go to Sephora and have a look around. Maybe try a new hairdresser. |
Anonymous
Disagree. Take the action and your feelings will follow. |
Anonymous
+1. Also, have you seen middle aged men? A lot of them look pretty rough by now. Its just aging! We're still people! I just try to wear cute clothes and glasses, and not look in the mirror too much |
Anonymous
Oh please. OP was bemoaning her looks. PP pointed out that a warm, friendly smile makes people look more attractive. It's true for men and women. Take or leave the suggestion, but it's not wrong. |
Anonymous
| In 20 years you’ll look back and realize you look pretty good now. |