DD has started going to bed without saying good night

[Anonymous]

For the past couple of nights DD has just started going to her room for bed without saying goodnight. This makes me sad, but it also seems like it’s skipping such a basic form of polite communication and basic connection between people who live together. It’s just the two of us in the house.

Do other teens do this?

[Anonymous]

Yes, totally normal.

If my teen goes upstairs to her room for the night ahead of me, I'll stop by her room and say goodnight.

[Anonymous]

Just say “are you going to bed?”

[Anonymous]

Yes normal for this age. I miss the hugs and kisses too..

[Anonymous]

Mine don't.

Even if they were doing something else, they always come find us just to say goodnight.

I agree with you OP, its a basic and respectful form of communication.

It's not about "hugs and kisses", its just communication.

So, even if its a "common" as others have indicated, i wouldn't say its normal or acceptable

[Anonymous]

Mine stay up later than I so I'm the one saying goodnight and sending myself to bed and telling them not to stay up too late.

[Anonymous]

Mine still say goodnight.

[Anonymous]

Mine only come in to tell the dogs goodnight. Haha.

[Anonymous]

I had one that did this, and I definitely felt sad. On the other end of the spectrum I have a college graduate that still wants a lullabye when visiting home (yes this is a fully functioning, self supporting adult). I think you just have to accept that some teens need to withdraw earlier and harder from some of the sweet moments that they now see as marks of being “childish.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the past couple of nights DD has just started going to her room for bed without saying goodnight. This makes me sad, but it also seems like it’s skipping such a basic form of polite communication and basic connection between people who live together. It’s just the two of us in the house.

Do other teens do this?

Just the two of you? Where is her father?

[Anonymous]

Eh, it depends.

If DD is on the younger side and going through puberty, this seems totally fine for her to be acting suddenly different. My DD did the same thing when she was ~12.

If DD is on the older side, it's a little strange, especially if she usually says good night and is affectionate towards you. Is she exhibiting signs of depression, anxiety, or an eating disorder? You say it's just the two of you- does DD feel like she can talk to you about things?

I'd monitor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the past couple of nights DD has just started going to her room for bed without saying goodnight. This makes me sad, but it also seems like it’s skipping such a basic form of polite communication and basic connection between people who live together. It’s just the two of us in the house.

Do other teens do this?

Just the two of you? Where is her father?

bro why does it matter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the past couple of nights DD has just started going to her room for bed without saying goodnight. This makes me sad, but it also seems like it’s skipping such a basic form of polite communication and basic connection between people who live together. It’s just the two of us in the house.

Do other teens do this?

Just the two of you? Where is her father?

bro why does it matter

Why does any of this thread matter?

[Anonymous]

It's within the range of normal,
You can as pp suggested say something along the lines of " are you going to bed? Goodnight, I love you"


I've also been able to work the I know it's embarrassing and lame , but I'll only have you at home for X amount of years I just want to hug you as much as I came. I would et an eyeroll but sometimes a hug is allowed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For the past couple of nights DD has just started going to her room for bed without saying goodnight. This makes me sad, but it also seems like it’s skipping such a basic form of polite communication and basic connection between people who live together. It’s just the two of us in the house.

Do other teens do this?

Just the two of you? Where is her father?

bro why does it matter

Why are you so bothered?