Would husband's ex know we have embryos stored?

[Anonymous]

I found out today husband's ex works in the billing/payments of the lab we have embryos stored. Is it likely she knows we have embryos there? My mind is telling me yes, of course she would/could know, but I'm hoping that's not actually the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found out today husband's ex works in the billing/payments of the lab we have embryos stored. Is it likely she knows we have embryos there? My mind is telling me yes, of course she would/could know, but I'm hoping that's not actually the case.

It is possible that she can see what you are paying for since she works in the billing department. It does not seem likely that she would be looking you up to see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found out today husband's ex works in the billing/payments of the lab we have embryos stored. Is it likely she knows we have embryos there? My mind is telling me yes, of course she would/could know, but I'm hoping that's not actually the case.

It is possible that she can see what you are paying for since she works in the billing department. It does not seem likely that she would be looking you up to see.

Is there anything I can do to prevent that?

[Anonymous]

Without seeming crazy, no, I don’t think so. And billing people do computer billing, not going down lists of patients so although she could see your name she’s not likely to. There are rules against looking up friends/neighbors/exes if that’s what you are worried about.

[Anonymous]

What's your concern about her knowing?

[Anonymous]

What do you think she'll do? Is she a psycho who will do something if you get pregnant? If you use them, she's going to find out.

I just don't understand?

[Anonymous]

Does she know that you have fertility issues and would be inclined to try to look up your information? The hipaa laws would prevent her from discussing this information with others, but it seems unlikely that there are internal protections to prevent her from viewing clients’s financial records since that would be part of her job. If you are being billed regularly for embryo storage then she probably has access to those records.

[Anonymous]

There was an unkind remark made about my children. I figured it was her being her usual unkind self and considered it coincidence. Think "test tube baby" type of comment. But today I found out where she works and I looked it up to find out in what capacity and now I'm less sure about coincidence. But, no way to really know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was an unkind remark made about my children. I figured it was her being her usual unkind self and considered it coincidence. Think "test tube baby" type of comment. But today I found out where she works and I looked it up to find out in what capacity and now I'm less sure about coincidence. But, no way to really know.

Just consider the source and move on. She sounds miserable.

[Anonymous]

Yes, if you are regularly billed for storage and she works in billing she absolutely could know that you have embryos there. It would be very easy to pull up your account and look at invoices and payments in every accounting system I've ever worked in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There was an unkind remark made about my children. I figured it was her being her usual unkind self and considered it coincidence. Think "test tube baby" type of comment. But today I found out where she works and I looked it up to find out in what capacity and now I'm less sure about coincidence. But, no way to really know.

You can assume, then, that she knows. DH should tell her you heard she called your children test tube babies. Ask her why she would say something like that. Let her squirm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was an unkind remark made about my children. I figured it was her being her usual unkind self and considered it coincidence. Think "test tube baby" type of comment. But today I found out where she works and I looked it up to find out in what capacity and now I'm less sure about coincidence. But, no way to really know.

You can assume, then, that she knows. DH should tell her you heard she called your children test tube babies. Ask her why she would say something like that. Let her squirm.

Nah, that would just give her the satisfaction of knowing that she upset OP which is exactly what she wanted to do. I'd ignore her super hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There was an unkind remark made about my children. I figured it was her being her usual unkind self and considered it coincidence. Think "test tube baby" type of comment. But today I found out where she works and I looked it up to find out in what capacity and now I'm less sure about coincidence. But, no way to really know.

You can assume, then, that she knows. DH should tell her you heard she called your children test tube babies. Ask her why she would say something like that. Let her squirm.

Nah, that would just give her the satisfaction of knowing that she upset OP which is exactly what she wanted to do. I'd ignore her super hard.

Good point.

[Anonymous]

People are missing the point here.

This women violated a medical privacy law and workplace confidentiality agreement. Your husband needs to tell her that he'll report her to her boss. She could be fired for talking about the clients.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People are missing the point here.

This women violated a medical privacy law and workplace confidentiality agreement. Your husband needs to tell her that he'll report her to her boss. She could be fired for talking about the clients.

How so? Genuinly asking. If she came upon this information during her regular duites and just recognized their names, she didn't violate anything.