Did your "girls school" daughter date at all in high school?

[Anonymous]

My daughter is an 18 year old senior at an all-girls school and hasn't dated at all. Well, technically she was asked to the prom last year by a platonic friend of a friend. She occasionally goes to parties with girlfriends and is pretty social but it's never led to any guy being interested in her or any texting or dates. I really think I'm accurate in this (no, she isn't hooking up with guys at parties). On the random occasion or two that a guy has texted her (maybe twice in high school?) she was super excited about it but it never went anywhere but a 2 or 3 text exchange.

I certainly don't know exactly who in her grade is dating but my impression is that it's about 10 girls---the extremely pretty ones--- and they serially date--sometimes dating a guy for a year, sometimes for a few months. These seem to be the only ones who date (to my knowledge as a mom). Lest I get called a creepy mom-stalker--I don't know any of this for sure. It's just my impression from what my daughter tells me, what other moms chat about, etc.

If you have (or better yet had) a daughter at an All-girls school was this their experience? It is just so different from my own. it does seem to be typical among her friend group (I'd say 1 of 6 have been on any dates in high school outside of being asked to a formal). Certainly there is nothing I can do about it but I'm just curious and can't really ask around in real life.

[Anonymous]

I don't have daughters but am curious about this as my (8th grade) DS is currently at an all-boys school and plans to continue for high school. He's friendly and social with boys but has no experience talking to girls, and I fear it will just get worse between reliance on digital communication and the all-boys environment not forcing him outside his comfort zone.

[Anonymous]

My high school senior goes to a coed school and has close friends who are boys, and hasn't been on any dates. It's personality, not where they go to school.

[Anonymous]

I find it so odd that parents think about their kids' dating life like that.

I went to an all girls HS (my sister too); she dated a lot, I dated never. We've both been married 15+ years now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My high school senior goes to a coed school and has close friends who are boys, and hasn't been on any dates. It's personality, not where they go to school.

This. I went to an all-girls school and not many girls were dating. My daughter is now at a coed school and…not many kids are dating. They tend to hang out in mixed-gender friend groups.

[Anonymous]

DD went to an all girls school. She went to nothing social where a date was involved and had no male friends. Now in college and has tons of male friends. I don’t get the sense that she’s dating anyone (male or female) but she seems happy with her social scene.

Girls who tended to date at her school met guys through siblings, at church, or at the CC. I do think it’s a combination of actively pursuing opportunities to meet boys via school activities and having family connections that open the door for that to happen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it so odd that parents think about their kids' dating life like that.

I went to an all girls HS (my sister too); she dated a lot, I dated never. We've both been married 15+ years now.

DP. I think it's really odd that you come in here to insult another parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My high school senior goes to a coed school and has close friends who are boys, and hasn't been on any dates. It's personality, not where they go to school.

I think that going to an all girls school makes it a little harder though. My daughter went to NCS (during covid, which didn't help). Many of her classmates dated boys from STA, but those girls typically were girls who had been at NCS for a long time (and thus had had many years to get to know the STA lifers); were involved in co-ed activities (music, theater, certain sports); and/or who were in a friend group with girls who could help them make those connections. My daughter just didn't have many opportunities to get to know guys at STA or other local schools (in part because she was always studying)!

She's a senior in college now and doesn't seem to have suffered any adverse effects from her lack of high school dating. In fact, starting college without a high school boyfriend gave her a more robust social life than many of her peers who were trying to maintain a long-distance relationship with a s/o (which seems to happen a lot more now than when I was in college).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is an 18 year old senior at an all-girls school and hasn't dated at all. Well, technically she was asked to the prom last year by a platonic friend of a friend. She occasionally goes to parties with girlfriends and is pretty social but it's never led to any guy being interested in her or any texting or dates. I really think I'm accurate in this (no, she isn't hooking up with guys at parties). On the random occasion or two that a guy has texted her (maybe twice in high school?) she was super excited about it but it never went anywhere but a 2 or 3 text exchange.

I certainly don't know exactly who in her grade is dating but my impression is that it's about 10 girls---the extremely pretty ones--- and they serially date--sometimes dating a guy for a year, sometimes for a few months. These seem to be the only ones who date (to my knowledge as a mom). Lest I get called a creepy mom-stalker--I don't know any of this for sure. It's just my impression from what my daughter tells me, what other moms chat about, etc.

If you have (or better yet had) a daughter at an All-girls school was this their experience? It is just so different from my own. it does seem to be typical among her friend group (I'd say 1 of 6 have been on any dates in high school outside of being asked to a formal). Certainly there is nothing I can do about it but I'm just curious and can't really ask around in real life.

Why are parents discussing who has a boyfriend or not? That is odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is an 18 year old senior at an all-girls school and hasn't dated at all. Well, technically she was asked to the prom last year by a platonic friend of a friend. She occasionally goes to parties with girlfriends and is pretty social but it's never led to any guy being interested in her or any texting or dates. I really think I'm accurate in this (no, she isn't hooking up with guys at parties). On the random occasion or two that a guy has texted her (maybe twice in high school?) she was super excited about it but it never went anywhere but a 2 or 3 text exchange.

I certainly don't know exactly who in her grade is dating but my impression is that it's about 10 girls---the extremely pretty ones--- and they serially date--sometimes dating a guy for a year, sometimes for a few months. These seem to be the only ones who date (to my knowledge as a mom). Lest I get called a creepy mom-stalker--I don't know any of this for sure. It's just my impression from what my daughter tells me, what other moms chat about, etc.

If you have (or better yet had) a daughter at an All-girls school was this their experience? It is just so different from my own. it does seem to be typical among her friend group (I'd say 1 of 6 have been on any dates in high school outside of being asked to a formal). Certainly there is nothing I can do about it but I'm just curious and can't really ask around in real life.

Gossiping is not good especially about young girls and boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is an 18 year old senior at an all-girls school and hasn't dated at all. Well, technically she was asked to the prom last year by a platonic friend of a friend. She occasionally goes to parties with girlfriends and is pretty social but it's never led to any guy being interested in her or any texting or dates. I really think I'm accurate in this (no, she isn't hooking up with guys at parties). On the random occasion or two that a guy has texted her (maybe twice in high school?) she was super excited about it but it never went anywhere but a 2 or 3 text exchange.

I certainly don't know exactly who in her grade is dating but my impression is that it's about 10 girls---the extremely pretty ones--- and they serially date--sometimes dating a guy for a year, sometimes for a few months. These seem to be the only ones who date (to my knowledge as a mom). Lest I get called a creepy mom-stalker--I don't know any of this for sure. It's just my impression from what my daughter tells me, what other moms chat about, etc.

If you have (or better yet had) a daughter at an All-girls school was this their experience? It is just so different from my own. it does seem to be typical among her friend group (I'd say 1 of 6 have been on any dates in high school outside of being asked to a formal). Certainly there is nothing I can do about it but I'm just curious and can't really ask around in real life.

Why are parents discussing who has a boyfriend or not? That is odd.

It's the moms whose girls are dating who talk about it. They always share who their daughters are dating.

[Anonymous]

I went to an all girls HS from end of 10th through graduation and didn't date while I was there. I hung out with guys and learned the value of being friends with them without sexual tension or drama (which they seemed to value a lot) and then dated in college. I dated before that school and after, but for some reason, not during.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is an 18 year old senior at an all-girls school and hasn't dated at all. Well, technically she was asked to the prom last year by a platonic friend of a friend. She occasionally goes to parties with girlfriends and is pretty social but it's never led to any guy being interested in her or any texting or dates. I really think I'm accurate in this (no, she isn't hooking up with guys at parties). On the random occasion or two that a guy has texted her (maybe twice in high school?) she was super excited about it but it never went anywhere but a 2 or 3 text exchange.

I certainly don't know exactly who in her grade is dating but my impression is that it's about 10 girls---the extremely pretty ones--- and they serially date--sometimes dating a guy for a year, sometimes for a few months. These seem to be the only ones who date (to my knowledge as a mom). Lest I get called a creepy mom-stalker--I don't know any of this for sure. It's just my impression from what my daughter tells me, what other moms chat about, etc.

If you have (or better yet had) a daughter at an All-girls school was this their experience? It is just so different from my own. it does seem to be typical among her friend group (I'd say 1 of 6 have been on any dates in high school outside of being asked to a formal). Certainly there is nothing I can do about it but I'm just curious and can't really ask around in real life.

Why are parents discussing who has a boyfriend or not? That is odd.

It's the moms whose girls are dating who talk about it. They always share who their daughters are dating.

DP. Maybe but op is keeping track of “1 of 6” have been on dates. Seems odd and rather nosy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is an 18 year old senior at an all-girls school and hasn't dated at all. Well, technically she was asked to the prom last year by a platonic friend of a friend. She occasionally goes to parties with girlfriends and is pretty social but it's never led to any guy being interested in her or any texting or dates. I really think I'm accurate in this (no, she isn't hooking up with guys at parties). On the random occasion or two that a guy has texted her (maybe twice in high school?) she was super excited about it but it never went anywhere but a 2 or 3 text exchange.

I certainly don't know exactly who in her grade is dating but my impression is that it's about 10 girls---the extremely pretty ones--- and they serially date--sometimes dating a guy for a year, sometimes for a few months. These seem to be the only ones who date (to my knowledge as a mom). Lest I get called a creepy mom-stalker--I don't know any of this for sure. It's just my impression from what my daughter tells me, what other moms chat about, etc.

If you have (or better yet had) a daughter at an All-girls school was this their experience? It is just so different from my own. it does seem to be typical among her friend group (I'd say 1 of 6 have been on any dates in high school outside of being asked to a formal). Certainly there is nothing I can do about it but I'm just curious and can't really ask around in real life.

I feel like I read a post very similar to this sometime last year but can't seem to find it.This isn't unusual. As you note, there are lots of kids not making the leap to dating in high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it so odd that parents think about their kids' dating life like that.

I went to an all girls HS (my sister too); she dated a lot, I dated never. We've both been married 15+ years now.

DP. I think it's really odd that you come in here to insult another parent.

NP....I too find it odd that parents are worried about their kids dating in HS. Weird. Let them be young as long as possible. It is a mean world out there.