10th grade DD Missing the bus because of going back to sleep - How would YOU handle?
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Anonymous
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Off to a rough start, it’s only October. Both parents are at work before DD bus arrives. She’s been missing the bus occasionally because she snoozes her morning alarm. I wake her before I leave and also DH will on his way out if she’s not up and showering/actively getting ready.
She likes to go back to sleep but continues to snooze alarms while also needing an hour to get ready. She does not shower the evening before but does everything the morning - hair, skincare, clothes ironing, everything. We’ve tried having her preset the shower the night before, but she sweats in her sleep. We have the conversation about planning outfits for the week while she’s laundering on Sundays. What other methods work in your home? |
Anonymous
| Why does she need to iron at all? |
Anonymous
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What time do you leave the house? I would try getting her up and have her get ready before you leave. She can earn the privilege of extra sleep when she doesn’t miss the bus anymore.
Or maybe try other incentives like get xyz skincare product if she gets up x number of days. Or the flip, lose phone if she misses bus. What happens when she misses the bus? Does she miss school? I’m assuming one of you can’t change your schedule to leave a little later. I have one kid who would never miss the bus in this situation because he would be stressed about missing school. The other would miss half the time because he does not care enough. We had to adjust our schedules to account for the second, at least in the short term. |
Anonymous
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1. Do everything the evening before
2. Hard exercise the afternoon before. 3. Early to bed. 4. Call in the morning to wake her up. Send ringer to LOUD. 5. If she can, enlist a friend as an accountability buddy to wake her up. 6. Fix bedding and temperature, or see a doctor. She should not be sweating in her sleep. Is she obese? 7. Give her a little coffee when you wake her up. 8. Don't just wake her up. Stand her up and get her out of her room. Lights on across house. Energetic music playing. I think being alone is a big part of it. Get her up with you home, ready early. She can do homework or play on her phone while waiting for the bus. |
Anonymous
| I would call her or make sure she’s out of bed before you leave. |
Anonymous
| There needs to be consequences for her not getting up and going to school. A parent should not change their schedule or remind a 15 year old to go to school. I am sure she remembers and is on time to go to parties or out with her friends, right? |
Anonymous
| Unfortunately, she's lost the privilege of hitting snooze and getting herself up. She now has to be woken up fully, removed from bed, and in the shower before you leave. It sucks that she's going to miss 30 minutes of sleep (or whatever), but that's the consequence for missing school. |
Anonymous
| She’s still a kid. Stay home with her to see her to the bus. |
Anonymous
This |
Anonymous
If you decide to call, you'll have to hit find my phone perhaps if her phone is on silent? Or look into how to make it ring even if on silent. You can change the settings on her phone so that it's not on silent by the time you need to call to make sure she's up, or I believe if you call multiple times in a row it will eventually ring (my kids tell me this is the case but I haven't confirmed). |
Anonymous
+1. Negligent parenting. Let the kids raise themselves, then complain how they're failing at raising themselves. |
Anonymous
| School start times are too early for this age group, which really needs more sleep in the morning. It sucks, but there is a lot of good advice on this thread including how to implement an earlier bedtime and how OP needs to fully wake up DD before leaving for work. |
Anonymous
| Get her an old school alarm clock and put it somewhere she has to get up and walk to in order to turn off. But why are both parents leaving so early? What was the plan before you decided she was old enough to manage this? |
Anonymous
That’s not going to work. She’ll say “I’m getting up” then roll right back over when she hangs up. |
Anonymous
| My tenth grader could not have done this without reminders last year, some days. He’s good this year. I think you need to get her up before you leave or shift your schedule if you can. They sleep deeply at this age. I don’t think it’s a totally reasonable expectation that she’ll make the bus 100% of the time. |