Dammit

[Anonymous]

I had been cultivating a colleague who is a couple levels above me to support me during year-end / promo time (in an ethical way - helping his team out etc.)

My colleague recently found out I am very well off (due to my DH’s income). I wasn’t being secretive but also not being open about it. Now coincidentally he is much less friendly. I worry he will not support me anymore!

[Anonymous]

you will live.

[Anonymous]

How did he find out

[Anonymous]

Tell him you're separating

[Anonymous]

The ick factor on your post is very high.

[Anonymous]

Very very high

[Anonymous]

Very very very high

[Anonymous]

"cultivating a colleague"? That is such weird phrasing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"cultivating a colleague"? That is such weird phrasing.

Yeah, DH was cultivating a colleague on work trips for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had been cultivating a colleague who is a couple levels above me to support me during year-end / promo time (in an ethical way - helping his team out etc.)

My colleague recently found out I am very well off (due to my DH’s income). I wasn’t being secretive but also not being open about it. Now coincidentally he is much less friendly. I worry he will not support me anymore!

I work for the government, and I have several colleagues who are extremely well off. I don't think anyone cares unless they flaunt their money. I would not go to work at a government job dressed in Chanel. I probably also would not wear a giant Cartier or Tiffany ring to interviews. I feel like both of those things are flaunting your wealth and may make people think you don't need a job.

I don't see why he should judge you as long as you are doing your job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had been cultivating a colleague who is a couple levels above me to support me during year-end / promo time (in an ethical way - helping his team out etc.)

My colleague recently found out I am very well off (due to my DH’s income). I wasn’t being secretive but also not being open about it. Now coincidentally he is much less friendly. I worry he will not support me anymore!

I work for the government, and I have several colleagues who are extremely well off. I don't think anyone cares unless they flaunt their money. I would not go to work at a government job dressed in Chanel. I probably also would not wear a giant Cartier or Tiffany ring to interviews. I feel like both of those things are flaunting your wealth and may make people think you don't need a job.

I don't see why he should judge you as long as you are doing your job.

I was in a refugee camp once and a big wig at a UN agency (think WFP, WHO) was wearing a Rolex. Who does that?!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had been cultivating a colleague who is a couple levels above me to support me during year-end / promo time (in an ethical way - helping his team out etc.)

My colleague recently found out I am very well off (due to my DH’s income). I wasn’t being secretive but also not being open about it. Now coincidentally he is much less friendly. I worry he will not support me anymore!

I work for the government, and I have several colleagues who are extremely well off. I don't think anyone cares unless they flaunt their money. I would not go to work at a government job dressed in Chanel. I probably also would not wear a giant Cartier or Tiffany ring to interviews. I feel like both of those things are flaunting your wealth and may make people think you don't need a job.

I don't see why he should judge you as long as you are doing your job.

I was in a refugee camp once and a big wig at a UN agency (think WFP, WHO) was wearing a Rolex. Who does that?!!

It's absolutely tone deaf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had been cultivating a colleague who is a couple levels above me to support me during year-end / promo time (in an ethical way - helping his team out etc.)

My colleague recently found out I am very well off (due to my DH’s income). I wasn’t being secretive but also not being open about it. Now coincidentally he is much less friendly. I worry he will not support me anymore!

I work for the government, and I have several colleagues who are extremely well off. I don't think anyone cares unless they flaunt their money. I would not go to work at a government job dressed in Chanel. I probably also would not wear a giant Cartier or Tiffany ring to interviews. I feel like both of those things are flaunting your wealth and may make people think you don't need a job.

I don't see why he should judge you as long as you are doing your job.

I was in a refugee camp once and a big wig at a UN agency (think WFP, WHO) was wearing a Rolex. Who does that?!!

I like this story for being highly illustrative of being ‘a d***’

[Anonymous]

Do good work and stand on your own merit instead of schmoozing someone else to go to bat for you. Maybe he was feeling used and it might not have anything to do with your husband's income.

[Anonymous]

Tribalism is real. If you are the other race they will use it against you.