True or false

[Anonymous]

My godson recently moved to DC after a top law school to do clerkships.

He is 25 and mostly dating women over 30 as he says most people around him are older so little choice here unless he goes on relationship apps which he has little time for in an entry level career. She is worried he would get trapped by someone desperate and hitting "expiry date" and regret later.

Before this he only dated women his age or one year older or younger. Is this a common occurrence here? They are well off and he is her only child born after a very long fertility battle so she is more protective than your average DCUM mom.

[Anonymous]

I honestly don’t think she has any control over what age group he dates.

[Anonymous]

I agree that she has no control over it, but can see that she's right about what might happen. There are a lot of women in their 30ties who're looking to become moms.

[Anonymous]

Who is "she" and "her"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who is "she" and "her"?

His mother, my cousin.

[Anonymous]

Tell her not to worry. Women who want to get married and have kids soon do not date 25 year old men. Professional women in DC often have kids after 36/37 into their early 40s. Professional women don’t trap men with pregnancy. It’s laughable! Highly educated professional people don’t get married because someone got pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to stop interfering in her adult son’s life. What if he finds happiness with a woman who’s a few years older? This is really none of her business and unless he asks for advice she needs to keep quiet and find something else to do.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to back off. This is a really bad look for her.

[Anonymous]

Ops post in a couple years. "My Godson wants nothing to do with his mom who has no boundaries. How can I help her?"

[Anonymous]

This poor guy.

[Anonymous]

He may find the love of his life but let his mom sway him away or he might get tempted to rush a marriage by someone awful and ignore his mom's warnings. He may end up a bachelor forever, divorced twice and happy but there is no telling, and no stopping fate. The only sure thing is his mom will worry about him forever.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. My college boyfriend, when I met up with him 20 years later after totally losing touch, stayed in DC and ended up with a woman about 5 years older than him. We both settled down with others before 30. I met someone on the west coast 3 years older than me.

[Anonymous]

I married someone close in age to me but I actually think this age gap works really well for marriage assuming the guy is mature and actually wants to get married and have kids.

If he doesn't want those things and gets dragged into it then it won't work but that would also be true with a younger woman. A man who doesn't know his own mind and is easily swayed by whomever he's dating is going to have a hard time no matter what.

If he's an attorney at a big firm then dating older women likely allows him to date women more established in their careers and who are more "peers" financially. That can make relationships easier and actually make it less likely anyone rushes into anything. The younger women he works with are probably not dating much -- they are going to be more career focused right now. And women outside his field might make a lot less and that creates a lot of inequities that might not be great for setting up a good dynamic in marriage unless he actually wants a very "traditional" dynamic where he's the breadwinner. A lot of men don't want that which makes a woman who earns more and is further along financially appealing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who is "she" and "her"?

His mother, my cousin.

The woman who needs to stop micromanaging her adult son's life.

[Anonymous]

I doubt she would actually meddle. Not the type but a perpetual worrier for sure.