What are the odds all three of my children are “queer”
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Anonymous
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Because I’m starting to think there must be a genetic component.
My two oldest are young adults. One came out as a lesbian after graduating and the other came out as pansexual the same year in High School. This was hard for me as I was raised pretty religiously and conservatively. I decided that in the end, loving my children wholly was most important and did a lot of self work. I still am spiritual, but my mindset has grown and I have a much better relationship with my kids for it. My son is about to be 16 and confided in his freshmen year he thought he could be gay or trans. We assured him we’d love him regardless and ended up putting him in therapy because he was really struggling with self identity. For now he just identifies as queer and dresses in a way I’d call “gender neutral”. He hasn’t had many issues at school with this since he’s not the only one going through similar issues. My middle daughter jokes about how gay our family is and she’s right, aside from DH & I. I have two older nieces through DHs family and they’re both lesbians as well. One has been married for about six years and has a child with her partner so it doesn’t seem like a phase. DH think his parents are rolling around in their grave knowing 5 out of 6 of their grandkids are “queer”/gay etc I definitely think there has to be a genetic component. All these kids were raised in religious households and had a hell of a time coming out aside from my middle daughter who doesn’t really care about anyone’s opinion. |
Anonymous
| I definitely think there’s a genetic component as well. I knew a family of 11 (yes, 11) kids and 6 of them were gay. Their parents were devout Catholics and had a hard time with it, but when half your kids are gay, you kinda have to be like “well, ok!” |
Anonymous
| Even if it was random (which it probably isn't), the probability of a family somewhere having 3 kids who were LGBTQ+ would be pretty decent. Grouping happens even in random sets. |
Anonymous
| It's not random, but they could be influencing each other or be the type to get carried away with social trends. Highly religious families are very conformist - they just conform to a different time. Their kids or grandkids conform to current times. |
Anonymous
| Def a genetic component. We still do not know much about human evolution, but I suspect this is part of it. |
Anonymous
| Genetic component. You or DH are probably in denial. |
Anonymous
| I've wondered also. One friend has 4 kids, none are straight. One Trans, two gay, one bi. Another has 3 kids, none are straight. |
Anonymous
| Were you on the pill when you conceived |
Anonymous
| It's possible. I worked for a gay guy who had two sisters. One was straight and one was bi. Keep in mind though, some people spend their lives as one thing and some slide around the scale throughout their lives. So things might change. |
Anonymous
| Genetic and environmental components both are common in nature. In humans, for instance, subsequent sons are more likely to be gay than first born sons. |
Anonymous
| Social contagion. |
Anonymous
| Were they being groomed by religious figures? It's quite common for children who were sexually abused to find "alternative" sexuality more comfortable. |
Anonymous
| My cousins are both gay. They are twins, but fraternal ones. A researcher's dream, lol. |
Anonymous
My daughter’s friend had boy girl twins in her grade. Both had switched genders!!!! (And this was at a conservative boarding school) |
Anonymous
| Social contagion. |