Regretting team choice
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Anonymous
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DC has been playing with the same club for a few years. They are on the top team and one of the strongest players. But the team has had its share of struggles and we have had concerns with training and coaching. Last spring DC attended practice and tried out at a couple of other clubs, and was offered a spot on a team that plays at the same (high) level.
DC ultimately opted to stay with their current team/club, and is now regretting it. The team is struggling and it doesn’t seem like things are going to get better. DC is frustrated and now wishing they had moved to the other team. I wanted it to be DC’s decision, but wondering if I should have nudged a bit more as I saw the writing on the wall. The other club/team is not amazing, but the players seemed more dedicated and the training seemed more effective. So now what? It’s obviously too late to change for this year. How can DC make the best of a bad situation? Can we go back to that other team and say we made the wrong choice and hope DC could get considered for next year? Anything we can do to make sure DC is still developing and enjoying the sport? I would hate to see their love get killed by low team morale and a poor training environment. |
Anonymous
It's too late. Your kid needs to see the season through and reevaluate come spring. |
Anonymous
| Your doomed. You will never be accepted at any other club. |
Anonymous
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Sorry to hear about that, that can be frustrating. We went through something similar last year. We trained with another team in the fall and was offered a spot on their 2nd team. My kid didn't really want to switch at that time and didn't try all that hard at the other team's practice. We stayed with our club last year and I feel like we wasted almost 9 months of training with them. I feel like my kid fell even further behind by staying with the old club longer than we should have.
I wanted it to be their decision instead of mine. We waited until spring tryouts and we made it onto another club. I do look back and wonder if I should have pushed my kid to switch sooner, against their wishes. I will say, that it is not too late to switch. Reach back out to the Coach and see what kind of fee they will charge and offer you the top spot back? Then, write your club and let them know you've decided to switch. We are very sad to leave our old teammates and families, but not sad to leave the 'basic let's scrimmage again' training environment. With the new team, the players and families are more dedicated, so thats been better. The coaching has improved also. But the most helpful thing is that my kid is getting better practicing with kids who are motivated to practice and try hard. My kid has learned more from them than the new coach at this point. After the decision is final, let your current coach and team manager know, so they can give your player a proper send off. (A classy team should wish them well at the last practice.) But if they give you the cold shoulder, good riddance as your kid deserve better and there are too many clubs in this area to be petty. |
Anonymous
| Invest in a good coach outside the club to build his confidence. |
Anonymous
| Also, if you switch now, you will know who your new coach is. Otherwise, waiting until spring tryouts, there is no real guarantee who the coach might be come next 25-26 season. This is our 4th year and the fall coach has switched for 3 of those years on us. |
Anonymous
League? |
Anonymous
SYC.... SYC is the ONLY club in this area with that many turnovers.
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Anonymous
| Smells like Alexandria to me. |
Anonymous
| Don’t overthink this. If your kid is ready to move on then they play the rest of the year they committed to and attend spring tryouts to move next year. That’s it. |
Anonymous
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You can switch mid year. You probably won’t get your money back but you can switch.
I would reach out to one of the clubs she considered and basically say “I think we made a mistake staying with our current club- could DC come to a few practices with your club. We are prepared to switch mid year if there are openings.” |
Anonymous
| You can change mid-year and it’s just a matter of whether you want to deal with your current club as to payment or to leave them hanging in the middle of the year. A club will likely be happy to take you mid gear assuming they have a spot. |
Anonymous
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Terrible advice ^. First, club can hold your player card. You can leave but if they hold the card kid is not playing anywhere this year.
Second teach your kid integrity. Your kid needs to suck it up and honor their commitment. They can try out in spring and leave then. |
Anonymous
Don’t listen to this guy. Just try to get out if you need to. We had a couple of people leave DS’ team in the middle of the year and they were easily replaced. |
Anonymous
This. If you see no redeemable qualities in the current situation, make the switch ASAP. It’s amazing what a different club/coach can do for morale and skill in short time at young ages. They can still be friends after they leave but the development window is small for some kids before the lack of development kills the drive. A year is a long time in a u12s short career. A bad situation can kill their desire quickly and lead to field hockey or basketball. |