At what point do you just admit defeat and cheat

[Anonymous]

DH is uninterested in sex. I need it like I need air. I never thought of myself as a cheater, but I’m feeling so desperate. I’m so sick of constantly getting rejected and it’s killing me.

[Anonymous]

troll

[Anonymous]

Don't cheat. Divorce.

[Anonymous]

Don't cheat. Tell him you are going to open the marriage.

[Anonymous]

Go to counseling. Separate. Negotiate an open marriage. Lots of choices. Cheating isn’t one.

[Anonymous]

Don't cheat. Have a real conversation about how you're at a breaking point and then either break up or come to an agreement where you can get sex elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Divorce. Or if you do cheat, keep it quiet.

[Anonymous]

If you need someone's approval, you have it, from me.

Divorce is a major financial and social step, and it takes time, effort and money. You can get your needs met now. You should also mentally prepare to pay a social price if words gets around, since there are plenty of unfeeling idiots like the above.

[Anonymous]

Tell him you’re opening up your side of the marriage, since he isn’t holding up his end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go to counseling. Separate. Negotiate an open marriage. Lots of choices. Cheating isn’t one.

+1. It’s the same I would expect of a man in the same situation. Vows mean something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH is uninterested in sex. I need it like I need air. I never thought of myself as a cheater, but I’m feeling so desperate. I’m so sick of constantly getting rejected and it’s killing me.

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I’d try to raise in in couples counseling if you haven’t, as a last ditch effort, it might flush out some hidden issue that could be dealt with. But if you’ve given him reasonable notice that you need more sex, and he isn’t doing anything to help it, I say do what you need to do. Vows are important, but you vowed monogamy, not chastity, and if you’ve raised the issue again and again and he has don’t nothing to change the situation, I think that is tacit consent. It would be a harder case if he was trying by giving you sex but it was bad.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't sound like cheating. Proceed!

[Anonymous]

Go 5 minutes without air and everybody's problems will be over.

[Anonymous]

For many people, cheating is just marking the end of a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Demonstrate integrity. Apart from your husband, if your kids or family eventually find out you've cheated, you'll cause lots of damage.

It's OK to decide your marriage is not meeting your needs and get divorced. But try to be honest with yourself -- don't stick around in your marriage because of the financial ramifications, for example, and then still cheat. You have to choose.