What red flag did you overlook in spouse?
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Anonymous
| What red flag did you overlook in spouse, that in the end was worth it for the relationship to continue? |
Anonymous
| Classic signs of ADHD. Had no personal experience before then so wasn’t aware. It’s tough |
Anonymous
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Enmeshment with his parents.
Luckily, they live overseas (he moved here), so the impact is limited. If they lived in US, we’d be divorced by now. |
Anonymous
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Ego and all caught up in academic values.
Still married. |
Anonymous
Not worth it but no emotions and I totally missed severe ADHD and the fact he can't complete any task at all or plan anything. I was really young. 
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Anonymous
| Funny how the only thing perfect people can't do is pick a perfect spouse. |
Anonymous
| Psychiatric issues. A wonderful woman overall, so I never gave a thought to leaving the marriage. |
Anonymous
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I seriously was creeped out by his parents and didn’t know why.
He admitted later that they were incredibly abusive. Thankfully he went no contact after that. Unfortunately the damage has been done, and he has some serious C-PTSD issues that have led to major problems in our marriage. |
Anonymous
| Anger, addiction, cheating, debt history, family enmeshing. |
Anonymous
| * red flags women should avoid |
Anonymous
This is worth pondering about. |
Anonymous
| Uncontrolled anger. I only saw it once before the wedding. He suppressed it really well. |
Anonymous
I just posted uncontrolled anger. You are right. I don't know exactly what my husband would post about me. Likely my drinking problem, which reached a destructive level around 5-6 years ago. I got sober 22 months ago, but he's still got the anger. |
Anonymous
| I think my husband would mention that I'm a liberal, and I would mention that he's conservative. But he's not a MAGA/fascist. He's kind to everyone. We agree that it's similar to two people of different religions and it's really not a dealbreaker. |
Anonymous
| He hid the red flags very well until after the wedding. However, after engagement I discovered hx of sexual abuse and bipolar disorder in the extended family, and should have run. |