Vindictive ASD teen
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Anonymous
| Hugh functioning ASD teen frequently had tantrums and intentionally destroys things. We were supposed to have company last night and he didn’t like that I wouldn’t get him chick fil a so he took bags of trash into the house and dumped them out in the living room. He does things like this. He also has called 911 once and swatted us claiming DH was an intruder. Has anyone seen wild behavior like this? He’s in therapy but it seems ineffective. |
Anonymous
| Google At Peace Parents and see if it feels like a match for "equalizing behavior". |
Anonymous
| Meds. Is he on meds? He should be. I say this as a parent to an ASD tween who is on meds who has nowhere near the level of behavior your kid displays. |
Anonymous
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NP.
Yes. We are living through this hell too. Thank you to the poster who wrote about At Peace Parents. |
Anonymous
| How long did it take him to clean up the trash? |
Anonymous
OP here. You know he didn’t. |
Anonymous
Seriously?! Mine would’ve been cleaning all night and steam cleaning again today. |
Anonymous
| Try an in home parent training with a professional, you’re well beyond talk therapy working for this situation. |
Anonymous
NP. So you don't have a vindictive ASD DC. Just unhelpful criticism. |
Anonymous
Sometimes it is not possible to compel a child to do things like this. I know it wouldn’t be possible with my ASD kid. She’d just curl into a ball and scream cry. In the middle of the mess. |
Anonymous
You don’t have this kind of kid then. Not OP here. How are you making kid clean the trash? Would you take away cellphone/electronics? Kid doesn’t care. Threaten to cancel vacation? Kid doesn’t care. And I mean they will fully lay on the bed or sit & stare at the wall for days rather than do whatever you are forcing, while the garbage rots & stains your furniture & rugs. This is what OP is dealing with. |
Anonymous
NP—thank you for posting this. People that don’t have kids like this are infuriating when they comment. They assume that we’re not parenting our kids or just letting them do whatever they want. They have no idea what we’re dealing with. |
Anonymous
I get told no, I spread garbage on the floor, I do fun things while mom cleans it up. Watching mom get upset and clean garbage is fun. Next time she’ll probably get me what I want, if she doesn’t I’ll make a bigger mess. I get told no, I spread garbage on the floor, I spend all night and day cleaning and don’t get to do fun things. Cleaning garbage is smelly and not fun, Next time I won’t spread garbage. |
Anonymous
How many ways can you tell us that you have a neurotypical child? I have no opinion on whether OP spoils her child or not but neurotypical parents have no idea. |
Anonymous
Mmmm hmmm. And are you going to beat the kid when they don't do it? Put a gun to their head as they clean? Because some kids still wouldn't clean up the garbage. I think you don't know what you are talking about here. |