| Just found out. Girlfriend that he ended it with texted me. I do not know what to do. |
| Yes you do. |
| Get better at massages. |
| I’m so sorry. Happened to me too |
| Document everything. Get a good lawyer. Divorce and move on with your life. |
| Time to show him the door |
| Wait, the girlfriend told you about the prostitutes? |
| How did your husband have so much free time without you knowing? |
| Come on OP you know exactly what to do. Call a lawyer |
| Start charging by the hour. |
| Take out as much money in cash as possible immediately. And then get an attorney. Make sure you have access to accounts. You know this is not salvageable. Don't spend years trying to convince yourself that it is. |
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He's an incorrigible liar. Selfish, entitled and a liar.
This is not salvageable and you will be okay post divorce. |
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I’m so sorry. It’s hard to know what to do when you are blind sighted, humiliated and hurt. Having been in similar shoes, my best advice is to hold off on confronting him or taking any action - try to process the information, fact check, and seriously consider what your next steps will look like. Consider meeting with a therapist to help you sort out your feelings and develop a plan.
Do NOT discuss any of this with friends and family. If you and your husband decide to work through it and stay together, it’s best to maintain some privacy. Even if the marriage ends, you dont want his issues to define YOU. You are in no way responsible for his behavior or his choices. He failed. You did not. |
The most annoying poster. Time to stop reading. |
| Contrary to what many women on this board think you cannot kick him out of the house. If you do and he wants to stay you have no legal basis to do so. Keep that in mind. My advice as married man is to do orcr this piece of sh**t. And do not blame yourself at any point. Many times people take for granted that finding a good and loyal spouse is kind of easy like just go on dates do blah blah and bingo. No it's PURE LUCK. Those who ended up with good partners got lucky period. I am sorry OP. |