Throughout the day, how often do you talk to S/O?

[Anonymous]

I’m trying to see if I’m overacting.
I am dating someone and I believe they aren’t reciprocating texts/calls.

For example, he doesn’t text throughout the day to ask how I’m doing, how’s my day.
I’m sometimes waiting hours just for a reply.

I don’t know if this is normal, or should I not expect to hear from someone throughout the day.

[Anonymous]

Maybe once to coordinate logistics if necessary. Otherwise never.

You sound needy. Or bored at work.

[Anonymous]

My wife and I text each other back and forth probably five times a day during a work day. It's a combination of asking how things are going, funny stuff that happened or we saw online, that kind of thing. Waiting a long time for a reply is normal though because sometimes we'll be in meetings.

[Anonymous]

I have been married for 24 years (anniversary is today!). We only talk during the workday if there is an emergency. We only text if we need something. We both are very busy at work and don’t have time for idle chat.

[Anonymous]

We text to share info when needed. Never just 'how us your day going. By not replying he is telling you not to text too much. He does not have time/energy for that while working

[Anonymous]

Married almost 7 yrs. We are basically always texting if we aren't together.

I wouldn't be happy waiting hours for a reply, unless I knew there was a reason for the unavailability. Just generally leaving me on read for hours and hours? Nah. But I don't chase. That's not the type of relationship dynamic I'm personally interested in.

You can't make him text back or call more often. But you can leave anyone who makes you feel shitty, and find someone with a more compatible style.

[Anonymous]

That sounds normal and healthy to me (a woman). I'd feel smothered otherwise.

[Anonymous]

So he texts in the morning and after work? I understand what he doesn’t do but it’s not clear how often you are in contact.

[Anonymous]

Married 8 years. We don't text during the work day unless there is a specific need to communicate about something time-sensitive. We are both busy doing our work and/or in meetings all day.

[Anonymous]

I don’t text or talk to my spouse unless there’s an emergency. And on a day like today, wanna have as little interaction as possible. 20+ years together.

[Anonymous]

Dating texts are different than married texts.

You have to see what’s normal for the person you’re dating. Some people just don’t text as much as you.

[Anonymous]

I used to call her once a day at work until the pandemic happened and we were home together for the next year. I'm back at the office, she's still working from home but we never resumed the daily calls. We text occasionally but only if necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been married for 24 years (anniversary is today!). We only talk during the workday if there is an emergency. We only text if we need something. We both are very busy at work and don’t have time for idle chat.

Same, except we’ve been married 26+ years. We call/text re dinner/grocery pick up 3 ish x a week but even that’s not a given.

[Anonymous]

Everyone is different. I dated someone that texted me 5+ times a day and expected a response. And i was at work and busy and not into all day chit chat. He was super offended and needed constant feeding of his feelings. We did not work out but he found someone who was also into that level of communication. Dh and I do no idle chat, a rare email with logistics or dinner planning. We love to talk and spend dinner time and weekends discussing everything from logistics to news to jokes and serious feeling. 12 years of marriage.

[Anonymous]

All the time. We both WAH. Different floors of house, but interact a lot, go work out together. Teens off for summer now too.